2 Weeks In- Wanting to Quit

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Registered: 10-28-2012
2 Weeks In- Wanting to Quit
Sun, 10-28-2012 - 2:08pm

Hi Everyone, I wanted to say you all are the strongest women in the world!

I am two weeks into pumping exclusively. My baby boy would not latch at the hospital. I left with a breast shield. Then the doctor said he would not gain weight properly on that alone. We have seen two LC multiple times and he is going to chiropractor for unaligned jaws. Possibly looking at a frenulim clip in a week. But am worried he’ll never latch onto just me because of the bottle. 

Since I have to go back to work in 3mos, and planed to pump then, I decided to start pumping now and bottle-feed. No big deal right? WRONG! I feel so overwhelmed and anxious all the time. I pump every 2-3 hours for 15-20 minutes. My supply is low, sometimes I don’t get enough for the next feeding. He gets a few formula bottles a day. My husband is taking another unpaid week off work. But will have to start working 12-hour days soon. I am afraid I might lose my mind then!

We tried so long for our baby, and now I feel like I’m not enjoying this life because I’m constantly worried about my supply or I’m exhausted from getting up every two hours to feed THEN PUMP. I feel awful for wanting to quit so soon. But everyone keeps telling me a happy mom=happy baby. How do I deal with guilt if I decide to stop??

So Torn Frown


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Registered: 10-28-2012
Tue, 10-30-2012 - 12:54pm

 Thank you for the tips! I’m just trying to take it one day at a time. Everyday that I pump is another day of BM for my boy. I have this horrible fear that if I put him on exclusive formula this early he develop all these issues (acid reflux, colic, constipation) I keeping thinking if I can hold out for 3-4 months his belly will handle it better then. I just don’t want to feel like a prisoner to the pump and not enjoy our time together. I’m sure most of this is all in my head right now. Smile You ladies are my heros for sticking it out for over a year! 

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Registered: 04-14-2011
Tue, 10-30-2012 - 12:12pm

Oh the first weeks are SO hard!!!  It took me 5-8 weeks to out produce my lo. Until then he had a bottle or two a day.  The less I seemed to worry about that the easier things seemed to get.  FYI - I never stopped worrying.  If it wasn't about production it was about something else.  Welcome to being a Mom! 

The only reason that I kept with it is because my lo seemed to have a happier tummy on BM.  When I first started my husband pretty much insisted that I go for a full year.  After about 3-4 months he was asking when I would quit.  :)  Really it is hard work.  But there are things that can make it easier and feel more do-able. 

Get a hands free bra and a swing or baby seat to put your lo in.  I figured out the swing but didn't figure out the hands free bra until after 5 weeks.  After using one, I have no idea how I made it those first 5 weeks.  Many ladies are able to pump and bottle feed their little ones at the same time.  Saves some time.  I was never good at this and always pumped right after feeding my LO and put him down for a nap.  I did a lot of hoping that he would not wake up until I was done pumping.  I also did some crying with him if he did wake up before I was done pumping.  Expect that in the first weeks/months you are still getting your mama grove on.  It will take you a while to get better at taking care of yourself and baby.  Don't expect to get it all at once. 

Get extra parts.  It was very helpful to have multiple sets so that I wasn’t washing on top of each pumping. 

Being so new, I doubt that you have tried to pump anywhere other than home. If you continue, I recommend trying to pump in public.  Attitude is everything!  Get a nursing cover to cover yourself.  Practice covering up.  I didn't try to pump anywhere besides home until after the 5 week mark.  And I mostly started because I started practicing for when I returned to work.  I wasn't sure that I would have a private place to pump and decided that I would pump at my desk in a cube farm.  Although I found that I could have a private place to pump, it was too disruptive to my day to hide every couple of hours.  Pumping at my desk became very comfortable.  :)  I wouldn't have made it 14 months if I didn't get over pumping in public.  I pumped everywhere!  Hospitals, restaurants, play areas, cars, work, family gatherings, zoo's..

As time goes on, it does get a little easier.  When you do decide to retire (none of us quit!!) believe it is the best choice you can make for you and your lo.  

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Registered: 10-28-2012
Mon, 10-29-2012 - 7:29pm

Thank You. Your kind words brought me to tears. (Not that is too hard to do these days) Today has been a good day! Not so anxious every second of the day! And my milk increased today- getting almost double the output! (2.5 ounces over 1.5) I found letting myself go 3-4 hours at night takes some of the stress off. HOPEFULLY this doesn't hurt me in the long run (any experience?)

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Registered: 08-25-2004
Mon, 10-29-2012 - 12:23pm

{{hugs}} I pumped for both of my children, now 5 and 3.  It's not easy, anyone who tells you it is would be lying! Wink

You're two weeks in, you need to make some important decisions since clearly this routine is stressing you and perhaps one of the reasons for your low supply.  Ask youself: How badly do I want my LO to have my BM vs formula?  Can I see myself keeping this up once you return to work?  How would I feel about feeding formula?  I also made a pro and con list of anything I could come up with that was either a benefit to EP'ing or not...it helped me see what I wanted, what was important and helped me manage my feelings on why I was EP'ing.

Things you can try to increase supply:

breast compressions
warm compress
herbal supplements
reducing stress - easier said then done!
increase your own fluid intake and keep your diet healthy and balanced
get plenty of rest when you can
add additional sessions into your day - not forever, just until you get your supply up!

Hang in there, it's tough and there are so many other things happening with your body right now too!  Don't let these first few weeks get you down if this is really what you want...you CAN do it!!