Considering quitting...

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Registered: 03-14-2011
Considering quitting...
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Mon, 03-14-2011 - 4:32am
I have been EPing since around Christmas, and my daughter is 4.5 months old. I originally planned to Pump/BF until 6 mos, then reevaluate. What I didn't plan on was having to give up dairy, chocolate, tomato sauce, orange juice, (they can say acidic food have no effect as much as they want - the spit up speaks for itself!!) and time with my family to make feeding Anna breastmilk possible.

The past week I've been majorly struggling with thoughts of weaning and supplementing with formula. I produce just about what she eats, so I have some "stash" but it won't last too long. I'm down to 3 pumps a day, but it's starting to wear on me a lot.

I feel so selfish and guilty for wanting to "hang up the horns". Any suggestions or advice? My DH is supportive of whatever decision I make. Our pediatrician seems to have no opinion on anything (hence my meeting with another this week). Any BTDT advice would be fantastic!
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Registered: 10-14-2010
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 10:07am

I can't give you BTDT advice regarding the dietary restrictions, but I can say that I have felt the feelings you're feeling when I have thought about stopping pumping and I didn't have to deal with the eating issue on top of everything else.

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Registered: 01-18-2011
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 6:24pm
Hi there, well I just wanted to say that I have definitely felt what you are feeling right now. I have been pumping for almost 8 months now and there have been many times throughout the journey that I have felt like stopping and switching to formula. I guess the only advice I could give is that after around 6 months the time starts to fly by because typically your little one starts to crawl, eat solids, cruise around. I have been debating the same thing lately but unfortunately my baby hates formula and won't take it. I don't blame him, he is older now and more aware of different tastes. I am hoping to make to around 10 months and then start to wean him on to whole milk and just skip the formula all together. You have done so well though! 4.5 months is great and if it is really affecting your life to the point where you are not happy than you should do what you feel is best for your whole family. Hang in there :).
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Registered: 03-12-2011
Tue, 03-15-2011 - 2:15am

I think we all have been right where you are right now and we all FULLY understand where you are coming from..My daughter did nothing but cry every waking moment for the first 4+ months

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Registered: 01-04-2011
Wed, 03-16-2011 - 2:43pm

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Registered: 01-26-2011
Thu, 03-17-2011 - 5:02am

Wow, I totally know where you are at (sounds like it might be the 4.5 month itch). I too have a 4.5 month daughter and have been EPing since just before Christmas and off and on before that. My plan was to BF/pump for at least a year but lately I am consumed with thoughts of quitting. I don't have the dietary restrictions but I have struggled with supply. I am still at 6

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Registered: 10-14-2010
Thu, 03-17-2011 - 8:13am

Oh you poor thing--you are doing a great job!

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Registered: 01-26-2011
Thu, 03-17-2011 - 11:12am

I think you are right. I was thinking along the same lines as you suggested for pumping schedule if I drop to 5 pumps. As she gets older trying to pump with her awake is getting more difficult. She's usually good for the first 20 minutes but then no matter how many songs I sing or toys I offer her she gets restless and fussy and then my anxiety goes way up. If I pump while she is sleeping I am way more relaxed and get way more milk usually. I should say that I don't regret pumping at all. I am adament that breastmilk is best however you can get it into them and for however long you can persevere with pumping/BF. I just get overwhelmed when I am exhausted and "bluey".

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Registered: 11-07-2010
Thu, 03-17-2011 - 12:00pm
Wow - thank you so much for that! I had been looking for reasons to appreciate feeding EBM when I see all the actively nursing mommies at day care (one of them exclusively because she works there). I hadn't really thought about how even though I cuddle and feed her very close to my breast she's much more free to look at me than the babies who have to strain their eyes to look up... :>