How Supportive is Your Partner?

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Registered: 07-05-2005
How Supportive is Your Partner?
Thu, 09-26-2013 - 8:28am

Even the most involved new fathers can sometimes feel a little lost when it comes to breast-feeding. Men can’t do the job so it hardly seems like their business.

But a study published earlier this week found that new moms who stress out over breast-feeding are more likely to consider throwing in the nursing blanket and switching to formula, despite the reams of evidence that breast-feeding exclusively for six months is best for a baby’s short- and long-term health. Fathers, it turns out, have an important role to play in helping mothers stick to it, despite reluctance to impose any opinions on the matter.

How supportive has your husband/partner been about pumping?  Does your partner support you and encourage you to keep going when you are struggling?

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Registered: 07-18-2002
Tue, 10-01-2013 - 2:55am

My husband is an amazing supporter. He washes and sterilizes all pump parts and bottles for me. As soon as he gets home from work, he always goes straight to washing to ensure I have what I need for the next day. He even sets up my pumping station. If it weren't for him, I probably wouldn't have the energy to do any of it. He did it for my daughter who is now 5 and now we're doing it all over again for our 3.5 month old. It's a team effort!

In the beginning when I was in pain, he did everything he could to make sure I was comfortable including running out and buying all the creams and ice packs, etc. Recently, I had mastitis and he did the most selfless and loving thing to help me... IT WORKED! He wouldn't let me give up and now I am back to breastfeeding and pumping! 

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Registered: 09-12-2013
Mon, 12-16-2013 - 3:54pm

I never would have been successful EPing without my husband. In the first few weeks, my little one was losing weight because he couldn't latch properly. A nurse taught me how to manually express milk into his mouth. However, doing so took LOTS of hand strength, and I couldn't keep it up for long. My darling, dear husband would actually take over for several minutes - squeezing and squishing until his hands would give out. :) I'm sure it was quite a site. When we eventually gave up nursing and started EPing, my husband was the biggest help by watching the baby while I pumped. I never really got the hang of pumping and taking care of the baby at the same time. It was very distressing to me if the baby needed something or started crying while I was tethered to the pump. So, without my hubby there to take over baby duty, I definitely would have quit early on.