Need encouragement !

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Registered: 07-26-2014
Need encouragement !
Sat, 07-26-2014 - 10:45am

Daughter is 18 days old. I have had to pump from day one. My other daughter is 2 1/2 and I had to pump with her as well. Pumped with my first for 3 months. Pumping this time around is so much more difficult. Needing some motivation or advice to keep going. 

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Registered: 07-27-2014
Sun, 07-27-2014 - 1:31pm

I'm in a similar situation to you.  My first (a boy) is 2 1/2 and my second (also a boy) is 8 weeks tomorrow.  I pumped with my first one, too.

Are you at home alone with both of them all day?  My 2 1/2 year old goes to pre-school during the week and that is immensely helpful.

What kind of support do you have?  When we put our 2 1/2 year old down for bed (8pm at the latest), my husband takes over with the baby and I have guaranteed "me time" till midnight when I can pump and shower.  I pump during the night, too, often twice, since it's guaranteed that my 2 1/2 year old will be asleep and not need me, and the baby often sleeps farely well then, too.  (A couple of times I've had to unstrap the pump and tend to him, but not much at night.)

During the day I pump when the baby is asleep, and I'm able to play with my little boy while pumping.  I have the Medela freestyle pump and the simple wishes pumping bra, so I'm hands-free and cordless, which is also immensely helpful.  Do you have a good pump?

Also, Sesame Street and Winnie the Pooh help me out with the 2 1/2 year old!  I'm not above using the TV to help me out since I know this won't be a permanent issue.

Also, we are using formula for about 6 oz a day so I don't feel pressure to have allllll of his meals come from me.  In my mind, any breast milk is such a gift and it's nice to only have to pump about 5x/day as opposed to 8, which is what I know a lot of EP'ing moms strive for.

Have you seen this site:

One big time saver is to keep all the pumping valves and what not in the fridge during the day and just wash them once a day at the end of the day.  That saves me a lot of time.

It's so hard, and I don't know how well I'd do if my 2 1/2 year old was home all day, if I didn't have the support of my husband, or if I didn't have a hands-free, cordless pumping set up.  Just know that you can do whatever is best for you and your family!  There is more to being a great mother than giving your baby breastmilk!