Venting

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Registered: 10-18-2013
Venting
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Wed, 04-23-2014 - 10:49pm

So, I am at 7 months of EPing today! Last week in the grocery store (the dairy aisle of all places), a woman came up to me and asked to take a peek at my baby. We made small talk and she asked me if I was nursing, while simultaneously glancing at my chest. I thought it was an odd initial question for a stranger, until she said that she was a La Leche League leader. I sighed and the story began... "Well, I actually exclusively pump...because my baby never latched on." She gave me that surprised look as if to say, "Really?" She listened to my story sympathetically. But at the end of the conversation, she offered a few breastfeeding pointers including me trying "skin-to-skin" and letting my baby "just play with me." Uhhhh...really? At 7 months? I have TRIED the skin-to-skin. And the last time I tried it, both my baby and I ended up in tears. Her sharp little fingernails scratched me to oblivion, she would not "snuggle," and my irritated, wound-ridden nipples were vulnerable to attack! I want people, including breastfeeding supporters, to understand and accept that SOMETIMES BREASTFEEDING THE TRADITIONAL WAY DOES NOT WORK! Like many of you, I had tried EVERYTHING! Finger-feeding, the SNS system, lactation consulations, occupatonal therapy, an ENT...and oh yes, meeting with a  La Leche League leader, who was as dumbfounded as everyone else as to why it just "did not work." She was convinced my baby was tongue tied, but the ENT was certain she was not. At 7 months, I have accepted exclusively pumping and am proud of myself for sticking with it! The traditional breastfeeding ship has sailed! So I confess I found myself somewhat irritated and bitter at this well-meaning woman's "advice." Just needed to vent and thought this would be the appropriate place to do so! :) 

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Registered: 02-13-2014
In reply to: fon2424
Thu, 04-24-2014 - 8:36am

you go girl!

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Registered: 10-18-2013
In reply to: fon2424
Wed, 05-07-2014 - 3:08pm

Haha! Thanks Annabonapfel! :)

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Registered: 05-19-2014
In reply to: fon2424
Mon, 05-19-2014 - 10:28am

My last baby had extensive health issues so I knew breast was best and I forced myself to bf to the point to where my nipples were non existent. When I had the new baby I refuse to go through the same situation so now I ep. Its lovely and as long as it works for you it don't matter what everyone else thinks. Its better than having a mom who cries through every feeding and causing your baby to feel the stress you feel

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Registered: 06-10-2014
In reply to: fon2424
Tue, 06-10-2014 - 8:25pm

I hear ya! I've been exclusively pumping for 6 months now after two bouts of mastitis in my first two weeks of nursing. I switched to pumping as a temporary fix while my breasts healed and then just stuck with it. I did, however, go through such a hard time in the first 4 months as I felt like no one understood me and like I had to constantly defend myself. Both my mother-in-law and my own mother seemed to have the hardest time understanding and I felt a lot of pressure from them and sensed gossip behind my back by my mil. People seemed to think I didn't try hard enough and gave up too easily.  I also noticed that the question of nursing was one of the first to come up when people would meet me. My first sense that I was not alone was talking to a nurse at a friend's potluck who had three children and exclusively pumped for all three. She was a badass and said she didn't give a crap what others thought about it and that it's important to do what's right for you.  I have since moved on from feeling insecure about pumping and just stumbled on this group. Nice to see there are more of us out there!

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Registered: 07-26-2014
In reply to: fon2424
Sat, 07-26-2014 - 10:51am

I hear ya! i just lie to people.  I dont want to hear their advice because I have heard it all.