when to stop?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-23-2011
when to stop?
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Wed, 11-23-2011 - 7:22am

Hi everyone,

I'm so glad I found this message board and wish I would have known about it a year ago!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2011
In reply to: tsmack
Thu, 11-24-2011 - 5:31am

You are NOT being rediculous. I'm kind of in the same boat as you. I'm only 9.5 months in but already worried about the guilt I know I am going to feel. Not providing my LO breast milk after doing so for so long is really really hard to swallow. Also, I know that providing breast milk beyond a year is highly encouraged, but I really hate feeling like 1 year isn't long enough or good enough. So I have decided to make a compromise with myself. Once my dd is a year, I am going to wean her onto cows milk. Once she can take cow's milk with no problems, I am going to wean myself to 1 pump a day (I am currently pumping 5x a day). If I am producing a decent amount with that one pump, I would like to provide my dd with whatever that amount is for as long as I can well past a year. If I'm only pumping like 2-3 oz, well, I don't know if that is worth pumping at all. If for any reason my dd can't tolerate cows milk, I will keep pumping like normal until I find an alternative. Anyways, I just wanted to share my plans and tell you that I completely understand your feelings of guilt. I think if you do whatever is best for you and your family than whatever choice you make is the right one. Another thing I do is try to picture my dd 10 years from now. I would like to think she is going to be a happy and thriving child. Then I picture myself 10 years from now and I really think I would tell my present self to not beat myself up about this! I think it's like when you pick out a color to paint your wall. You spend hours choosing between 16 shades of blue and a year later you're like, did I really spend thaaat much time over this? Hopefully you get what I am trying to say lol. Congrats on making it to a year! I can't wait until I can say the same myself =).

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-23-2011
In reply to: tsmack
Fri, 11-25-2011 - 7:55am

Wow, thank you so much!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2010
In reply to: tsmack
Fri, 11-25-2011 - 7:55am
Weaning is probably hard no matter what, as nursing/pumping is an emotional decision and not just a practical one. I was ready to be done with the pump and have my life back at a year, so while I did feel sort of sad to no longer be able to provide my daughter with nourishment, getting my life back to normal felt really good. If you decide to continue, good for you, but if not, the sadness/guilt does go away (at least it did for me) when you get into having time for all the things you used to have time to do!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2011
In reply to: tsmack
Fri, 11-25-2011 - 10:02am

I just wanted to chime in and say, again, you are not alone in this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-25-2011
In reply to: tsmack
Mon, 11-28-2011 - 2:21pm

Please know that you have done a wonderful thing for your LO, whenever you decide to wean.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-23-2011
In reply to: tsmack
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 9:55am

I really appreciate everyone's replies!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-23-2011
In reply to: tsmack
Sat, 12-17-2011 - 9:35am

Hey everyone, just wanted to update once more.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2011
In reply to: tsmack
Mon, 12-19-2011 - 2:42am

Yaaaay! I'm so glad things are going well. :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-20-2006
In reply to: tsmack
Thu, 12-22-2011 - 9:02am

Hi I'm new to this group and wanted to share my experience.

Ginger married to my dh for 16 years mom to dd - 11 ds - 9 dd - 6 dd - 3 dd - 5 months