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Registered: 10-18-2010
Mon, 10-18-2010 - 2:29am

I have been EPing for the past 10.5 months. I have decided that I would like to be done by Thanksgiving. I have also decided that I would like the very gradually slow down my milk production. Tonight is my first night of cutting out a session and I have this huge feeling of guilt and regret about weaning. Is this normal for me to be feeling this way or is it normal? I have been reading about people feeling depressed and such but haven't come across what I am feeling. Is this a sign I should not stop? These feelings are making me second guess my decision. But when it comes down to it, I want to be done with it. Anyone?? Please??

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Registered: 05-04-2009
Mon, 10-18-2010 - 9:05am

I am 11.5 months in and get the same feelings when I think about weaning. I think it's normal. Pumping has become such a normal part of daily life by now, that weaning will feel like the end of an era, and the end of DD's "babyhood." Also, I think we all feel so much pride in all the hard work we do pumping for our LOs, that it's hard to stop without some guilt and regret.

I don't plan on weaning for several months now, partially because DH is always bringing home germs and I want to keep her immune system strong through cold and flu season, and partially because I don't want to deal with the sadness of weaning anytime soon. From what I've read on this board, these feelings are very common.

When you do start weaning, your hormones will probably be all over the place, so the guilt and regret might get worse before they get better. But you've done a GREAT job pumping for 10.5 months, and it sounds like you'll be making it a full year by the time you're done. AMAZING accomplishment.

Keep us posted, and enjoy having a little more free time in the weeks ahead. You should do something to reward yourself for all the months of hard work. :)


Mom to Ashley Elizabeth, born 11/3/09

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Tue, 10-19-2010 - 6:17pm

I too am at 11.5 months into this and started weaning.