can't seem to let go.....

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Registered: 07-26-2007
can't seem to let go.....
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Thu, 11-27-2008 - 9:43am

I've been

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Registered: 08-03-2007
Fri, 11-28-2008 - 2:00pm

i know what you mean! i can't seem to let go of pumping either. i'm slooooowly lessening the amt of time i spend pumping each day, but i can't let go of the psychological crutch of pumping at least 2 or 3 times a day, even if it's just for 20 minutes each time.


you can stop. it's okay. 3 oz is not going to work miracles, and i don't know how long you spend pumping but it's probably not worth it anymore. you've gone 19 months and there's nothing at all to feel guilty about if you stop now.


now, i just need to listen to my own advice. :)


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Registered: 05-20-2007
Sat, 11-29-2008 - 7:56pm

I'll argue the other side and suggest that if you feel so torn about it, maybe you aren't ready to stop yet.


I'm not convinced guilt is inevitable, with this or anything else. Maybe those guilty feelings are there to give us a push in the direction of what we really want to do, deep down. Why not stick with

 

 

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Registered: 02-19-2008
Sun, 11-30-2008 - 3:37pm

Hi Tara,

I don't think that you ever get over the guilt until you just HUTH. I had a really hard time too, even though I knew that I HAD to quit. I was going back to work, I had a HUGE freezer stash (which we still have about 3 more months, 3 months after I quit). My sister, who was able to BF her kids, for over 2 years also had a hard time HUTH. Once it was over, I was so glad that I had decided to do it. It was just getting over the hump that was difficult, and then I knew I ha done the right thing. Plus, the extra time with my DS was well worth it, and he's still on mommy's milk!!!

HTH and GL!!!

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Tue, 12-02-2008 - 8:20am

Thanks, i really needed someone to tell me it's ok to stop, especially someone who knows what it means to pump this long too.

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Tue, 12-02-2008 - 8:37am

Thanks for jumping in :)

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Registered: 05-20-2007
Tue, 12-02-2008 - 7:16pm

Hi Tara,


Yes, it'll be 2 1/2 years at Christmas.


I'm really sorry, I didn't realise carpal tunnel syndrome was affecting you! If I'd known, I might not have been so quick to rush in with advice which is the opposite of what you asked for!


That was one of the things which stopped me pumping long for my first child - she'd already

 

 

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Registered: 04-02-2008
Wed, 12-03-2008 - 12:48pm
Just dropped in here after HUTH almost 3 months ago when Anna turned one year. Thought I would reply since I can completely relate (except for not having pumped as long as you have - way to go!). I was very torn, too. I think I pumped 1X a day for a couple of months and was down to barely over an ounce before I was able to really let go. Even then, it was bitter sweet. I absolutely love the feeling of NOT worrying about getting Anna to bed at night just so I can pump. I think it's actually helped my marriage, since we have more quality time together before bedtime. But on the flip side, I felt that I was failing Anna. I kept thinking that if I would have just kept up the number of pumps that I could have continued longer. But I think all in all, I've been a happier, or at least less stressed, mommy since HUTH. But that's just my personal experience, and I don't want to encourage you to HUTH until you are COMPLETELY certain that's what you want to do. I bet you read the message that I posted about a study finding that even small amounts of breastmilk provide immunity, and that the smaller the amount, the greater the concentration of antibodies. I think it's probably true, but like Jo Ann said, it's not a magical potion (or something to that effect - sorry if I misquoted you Jo Ann!). Anna has been without any breastmilk for nearly 3 months, and still hasn't had any illness. I don't know if it's because she had breastmilk for as long as she did, or if she just naturally would be less prone to illness. But I must say, it's been quite a relief that she didn't get sick once weaned, and I feel slightly less guilty for stopping. And as far as what I'm doing to try to keep her healthy, well, I'm pretty neurotic (but much less so than in the early months!). After playdates, I wipe her hands with baby wipes. Okay, I know alot of mom's reading this will think I'm terrible. But I do actually put sanitizer hand gel on her hands - but then wipe it off with wipes after a few seconds, so she doesn't ingest any gel if she were to stick her fingers in her mouth. Then when we get home, we both wash our hands and change clothes. I also discourage her from putting toys in her mouth at play dates, and try to keep her away from kids and adults who have runny noses and/or are coughing. We also immunize, but that's only after agonizingly weighing the risks of disease versus the risk of autism, etc... She got her flu shot last month, and the booster shot yesterday with no problems. Another thing we do is keep her out of the church nursery. I have friends and family members who stopped taking their babies to the nursery at their churches due to them being sick every week, and then getting better once they stopped taking them there. I think it's probably because they aren't monitored the way daycare centers are. I worked at an early head start center, and we washed toys every night and/or sprayed them with a bleach solution. Plus, kids with fevers and obvious illness were sent home. Church nurseries just don't have those strict procedures in place (at least not the ones I'm familiar with). One more thing, we try to feed Anna as much organic food as is possible, but's not so easy since we live in a small town with a small selection of organic food. Wow, sorry my reply is so long. I hope I've helped you! Good luck, and congrats on Eping for so long!!!!

Shyla

Shyla - Mom to Anna, born 9/12/07
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Registered: 07-26-2007
Fri, 12-05-2008 - 9:34am

Hi Sara,


Don't worry....i've had carpal tunnel for awile now, and it hasn't stopped me from pumping yet!

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Fri, 12-05-2008 - 10:48am

Thanks, you make a lot of good points.

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Registered: 05-20-2007
Sat, 12-06-2008 - 9:46pm

"That's awesome that you've been at it for 2 1/2 years.

 

 

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