We Disagree - Help!

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We Disagree - Help!
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Sun, 06-24-2012 - 9:21pm

I had my husband's full support in getting to 6 months for our twins.  Now he wants me to wean and stop pumping by the end of August. He know all the health benefits, but feels that it's taking eating up a ton of family time and we're constantly scheduling around my pumping.  

With twins, it has definitely been a challenge to make it this far.  I've dropped from 7 to 6 pumps, but I'm just not ready to give it up entirely.   I can't keep up at this point, and have to start supplementing a small amount in the coming weeks.  

Anyone else face this?  Did you find a compromise that worked?

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Thu, 08-02-2012 - 1:33pm
Congratulations on your girls! When I started this process, a LC told me that pumping for twins would be like having triplets. Now I know what she means! It's a lot to juggle, but I'm still going. I hope you are doing well, too. Thanks for the encouragement! :smileyhappy:
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Thu, 08-02-2012 - 1:40pm
gmueller - I hope, hope, hope you went the extra 6 weeks and made it to 6 months?! You've done a great job, no matter what.

If it's helpful.......I realized that my husband was making comments about stopping when he was overly tired or stressed. Talking about pumping at a different point in time made a world of difference to how receptive he was. Our goal was 6 months which I've hit, so I think he was taken aback when I wanted to keep going. Right now, the compromise has been that I dropped from 6 to 5 pumps a day.
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Thu, 08-02-2012 - 1:52pm
I cannot imagine juggling all that you are. You are a rockstar! Thank you for all the excellent advice and such a thoughtful, well-written response!

Absolutely, this is a short period of time in the grand scheme of things. The adjustment to life with twins is certainly been a factor in his stress level and how he perceives the time allotted to pumping.

I love the idea of combining pumping time with everyday activities. I am also going to look into a portable pump. Seems like a must to give our lives some more "balance."

P.S. Congrats on #4!
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Thu, 08-02-2012 - 1:54pm
Great point. DH mentioned how healthy the babies have been, and I used that chance to remind him it's probably b/c of BM!

We did compromise. I dropped 1 pump to 5 a day (including 1 MOTN) and it's given us a lot more freedom. Seems like pumping on the go is the way to go. I've got to try it!

Thanks for your response.
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Wed, 08-22-2012 - 4:57pm

I don't know exactly what type of pump you have, and therefore how more "portable" you could get.  I have occasionally eyed the FreeStyle with jealosy, but I don't think that I could really walk around the house and expect my horns to stay on as the bottles fill up, so could never justify getting one to myself.  I have a PISA, which I find to be "portable" enough (i.e. easy to move to new locations to set up to pump, but I don't actually try to walk around with it on - I know some moms do their hair and makeup while pumping, but that is beyond me).  If you do need to be able to get a PISA style pump into a smaller space for travelling, it does "unvelcro" from the bag (I figured this out the hard way when one of the TSA agents inspecting my pump insisted that he be able to take a swab from the BACK of the motor, so I had to figure out then and there how to get it out, or miss my flight).  So when I travel I usually just take the pump motor out of the pack, put it into my suitcase, and carry my horns in a ziplock bag in the cooler I store my milk in. 

Good luck on finding balance in your family life, I'm sure it won't take too long!  We actually lost our little #4 three weeks ago at about 11 weeks along, so I'm adjusting now to being NOT pregnant or pumping, which has been my normal for the last 5 years - I've completely forgotten how to eat a normal amount of food or sleep long stretches at night.  But I'd give anything to have those "inconveniences" back - its all perspective!