Weaning and Guilt Tripping

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Registered: 08-03-2008
Weaning and Guilt Tripping
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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 11:48am
My goal has always been to make it to six months, and I'm on track to do that, so I've started the process of weaning. I was unprepared for the huge emotional rollercoaster I'm on right now. I couldn't wait to give up pumping... and now I feel like part of me wants to go right back to eight pumps a day. Everyone around me, including my husband, has told me that I've done a great job and that there is nothing to feel guilty about, but I do! Like a constant, burning feeling like I'm abandoning my baby and being the most selfish person in the world. Has anyone else felt like this when weaning? Every time I pump I feel disappointed when there's less milk, and have to try to remind myself that that's what's SUPPOSED to be happening. I am a massive basket case.
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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 2:37pm
You did do a great job and should not feel guilty! I am sitting here pumping feeling guilty that my baby is trying to entertain herself
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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 2:44pm

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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 3:37pm
Well done - you've done an excellent job of getting as far as you have!
Try not to feel guilty - think of all the extra time you're going to get to spend with Fiona!
Good luck with weaning,
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Registered: 08-03-2008
Sat, 11-22-2008 - 1:59pm

Thank you all for your supportive words. I'm trying to focus on other things (like preparing delicious organic purees for my sweet little girl) as an outlet. Joee_t, you aren't kidding on how ridiculous it is for us to feel so guilty about stopping something that's such a pain in the butt to begin with! For some reason, even with everyone telling me it's OK and I've done a good job, I'm still waiting for some reassurance that this is a good decision for me to make. I don't know what it will take. Maybe just time.

It looks like Mommy Guilt is part of the whole motherhood package. Of course it's right at this exact juncture that Fiona comes down with a cold, making me feel even worse about weaning. Argh!

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Registered: 07-13-2008
Sat, 11-22-2008 - 7:54pm
I am so glad you posted! I am in the exact same position. My little guy is 5 months, and I always said, if I make it to 6, I could stop. But now I am doubting my decision. 4 months ago, I couldn't wait to pack up that pump, and now, I am catch myself saying maybe I can make it a few more months. My mom even asked if I wanted to give him a few formula bottles to see how it went and I couldn't do it yet. I would love the extra time but I am just worried about it and I too feel that silly guilt. I work fill time and pumping has been a challenge. I am down to 4 pumps a day but I am a HVP and still make 40 to 50 oz. I am worried about how will react to the dreaded 3 pump drop in supply. How do you deal with the guilt and panic as that supply drops, even when you want it to?
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