3 month old sleep advice ASAP!

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3 month old sleep advice ASAP!
Tue, 08-28-2012 - 12:15am

My 3 month old only naps during the day in his swing (while swinging) or in bed with me...and at night he wakes every 1.5-2 hours sleeping in his bassinet beside my bed...

He is now too big for his bassinet so we are trying to get him to sleep in his crib...

To get him used to his room we moved the swing to his bedroom but he still screameed his head off while in his room...

We tried to put him in his crib and let him cry it out and he SCREAMED crying for 1 hour...

What do I do? Is it too early to start sleep training? Do I soothe him and put him to sleep in is crib for a month and then beging sleep training at 4 months???

Do I let him cry it out...or go in starting after 2 minutes of crying and increasing my wait time by 2 minutes each time???

Please help!!! :smileysad:

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Tue, 08-28-2012 - 10:23am

I guess my question to you is what do you want to have happen at this point?  It is really normally for a baby that small to wake every 2 hours to feed or seek comfort.  It is also really normal for a baby that age to sleep best in a position that is not flat in a crib.  One of my best friends had a daughter who ONLY slept in a swing until she was almost 8 mos old.  My coworker's child slept in a car seat with the straps removed until 6 mos.  My DS slept sporadically in crib starting at 4 mos, but not with the matress flat--we put lifts under one end of the crib so it was elevated and he wasn't flat in the bed.

3 mos is really, really little.  And sleep is a really, really precious commodity.  I personally did not feel like taking on sleep struggles until I felt more rested and my DS was able to be somewhat independent--which a 3 month old can't do.  I also seem to recall that sleep training advice was intended for babies 6 months or older, not a 3 month old who needs to eat during the night and might need to be changed during the night also (so that he or she can be comfortable and calm).

If it were me, and when it was me, the only thing that mattered to me was getting back to sleep ASAP.  So I went to my DS, and did what I had to do to get him back to sleep as soon as possible--so that I could get back to sleep as soon as possible.  If it were me, I would say, hold him, feed him, and do what you have to do to get him to sleep now so that you can get some rest and take on the big struggle when he is a little bit older.  3 mos is very, very little still.