Habitual Waking - feedback appreciated:)

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Habitual Waking - feedback appreciated:)
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 11:20pm

I posted yesterday about trying the Baby Whisperer's pick up/put down method. I am sort of doing a modified version of it, not just picking up and putting down, singing to him, holding his hands...but putting him in the crib awake and he's falling asleep at naps and at night like this. At night he falls asleep right away, naps it takes him about 30 minutes. No real crying, just some fussing.

My problem is that he wakes up every two hours - you can literally set a clock to his wake ups. He has been doing this for a month or two now. I have been feeding him everytime - i know, stupid. But I have and sometimes he actually eats quite a bit (he is very distracted for daytime feedings). Last night we did a dream feed at 9:45 before we went to bed and he still woke up at 10:45. Then 12:45, 2:45, 4:45... I got him back to sleep at 10:45 but the others I broke down and nursed him. I probably only needed to at 2:45 as that is the only on where he ate a lot.

How do I know if I should feed him or try to put him back to sleep straight away? Should I do the "wake to sleep" thing where I slightly wake him up an hour earlier than I expect him to wake up? I know he needs me to help him get back on track because it is my night nursing that has made him a habitual waker. I have absolutely no problem feeding him if he is hungry and I know that breastmilk digests fast so I have a lot of guilt about trying to put him back down if he's hungry. If I feed him, he falls asleep at the breast and there is no hope of me getting him in his crib awake. I KNOW that he can't be hungry everytime he wakes...he's 5 months, over 18 pounds and cluster feeds at 5 and 6.

Any ideas, experiences, advice? Thanks so much!


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Registered: 10-21-2008
Fri, 10-22-2010 - 12:12pm

I don't know if anyone has had success with the wake to sleep method - it's so scary to try!!


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Registered: 03-19-2007
Thu, 11-18-2010 - 11:17am

I could have written your post! My 5.5 month old is also over 18 pounds and wants to have a tiny nursing every time he wakes be in within the hour or two hours or even within 20 minutes. I try hard to put him back down without but yes the guilt is immense.