HELP---Don't know where to start!

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Registered: 08-08-2011
HELP---Don't know where to start!
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Mon, 10-31-2011 - 4:37pm

Hi, my name is Ally, and I am a FTM to DS who is 4 months old.

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Registered: 03-21-2010
Tue, 11-01-2011 - 12:07am

Oh my goodness, you must be exhausted! YGreat job on continuing to breastfeed after returnig to work, especially when you must be so sleep deprived.

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Registered: 08-08-2011
Tue, 11-01-2011 - 7:21am
Thanks for your reply and input. When he wakes back up after "bedtime" (usually around 9 or 10), we try to keep him calm without picking him up for as long as we can. If it's been more than three hours since he ate, I feed him. I'll confess that we sometimes put him in the carseat and rock him as that usually puts him to sleep. I think he has gotten in the habit of relying on the carseat (and so have we). In the middle of the night when he won't go back to sleep, I rock him in the glider with his pacifier (sometimes takes an hour).
I am thinking about starting his day at 730 (having my parents wake him up at the same time everyday). Also, I'm wondering if letting him have one longer nap in the mornIng would help keep him from napping after 4pm?
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Registered: 03-21-2010
Tue, 11-01-2011 - 12:13pm

My DS needs a third nap in the late afternoon because he gets tired after about 2 hours. I think 3 naps per day is quite common at this age and then it drops down to two in another few months once they are staying awake for longer.

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Wed, 11-02-2011 - 9:31am
at 4mos, it'll be hard on him to be put on a schedule because he's just so young. usually kids who are older than 6mos can be on a good sleep schedule because they can handle the longer wake time between naps and bedtime.

as for your ds, i would let him sleep as long as he needs to until he wakes on his own. even if that means napping for 2+hrs in the morning, let him. as they say: never wake a sleeping baby!

perhaps his bedtime may be a bit too late? if you plan on having him up by 7/730am, then i would aim for a bedtime of 7/730pm. most kids who are overtired have trouble staying asleep.

as for CIO/sleep training, i would wait until 5/5.5mos. around 4mos, they go thru a big growth spurt (physically/cognitively) so you'll probably get more/longer crying. use whatever method you feel comfortable with and stick to your plan for at least 2wks because it will take your ds some time to learn. go with an earlier bedtime and let him nap for as long as he needs to. a good book to read is 'the sleep easy solution for exhausted parents'. it tells you step by step what to do and also includes how to sleep train with night feeds.

good luck!
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