Pacifier dos and donts?

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Pacifier dos and donts?
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Wed, 03-14-2012 - 6:02pm
We followed all the rules with my first son... No pacifier until 3 weeks to avoid nipple confusion. At about 3 weeks, we started giving him the pacifier throughout the day as needed. It was a savior. At some point we were able to give him the pacifier at bedtime, he would go right to sleep and be good to go.

Six years later and my memory a little fuzzy, I'm dealing with new problems with my new baby, now almost 5 weeks old. This time around we have him the pacifier right away since breastfeeding went smooth. The biggest difference between my two boys... My first had no gas. I couldn't ever get him to burp and he never spit up. My second often spits up, has had a few full on vomits, and has to be burped several times during a single feeding. He grunts and whines and pulls his knees up for about an hour after eating before he calms down enough to nap. the only thing that seems to give him any comfort is the pacifier. however hes become insistant about having it all the time. he will scream the instant it falls out of his mouth. often hes woken out of sleep (i assume gas) and cries out, which causes the pacifier to fall out. then the only thing that calms him is the pacifier. so its become a non stop routine of pacifier in and out and crying every 10 minutes all night long.

my husband wants to take the pacifier away and let him cry it out. i feel horrible doing that since hes only 5 weeks old.

we are doing gas drops and gripe water to lessen the gassiness. holding him doesnt give him much comfort. hes happiest in the vibrating bouncer with a pacifier.

any ideas or advice?
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Registered: 04-28-2011
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 3:47am
One thing that helped my DD through the gassy parts is massage: apply gentle pressure to the tummy doing clockwise circles. Also bicycling her legs let out some of the gas. She wasn't gassy all the time but when she was, nothing else would soothe her.

One other suggestion I have is to take a stroll over to the breastfeeding board. The ladies there are very experienced and may have great ideas to help reduce the gas. For instance some bf babies can be sensitive to mom's diet and react to certain foods by getting fussy, gassy, etc.

With the paci, I wouldn't take it away if it offers comfort. Baby is going through a rough patch and I wouldn't compound that with having to give up paci. If you decide to eliminate it, I would wait for a stage when baby isn't very attached to it. My nearly one year old goes through weeks of heavy use for nap and bedtime and will decide to have nothing to do with it at other times. I wouldn't try to ditch it during the heavy use periods.

I hope I made some sense, I just finished a MOTN nursing so I'm a little fuzzy :-). Good luck and I hope baby feels better
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Registered: 05-03-2010
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 2:38pm
Went to the dr yesterday and they gave us reflux medicine. For now I think that convinced my husband that hes not fussing out of pacifier addiction, but rather he is in some pain and needs something comforting.

We've only given him 1 dose of the medicine so far and he is actually spitting out the pacifier as soon as hes calm and doesn't seem to need it again. Hopefully its not just a fluke. :-)
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Registered: 04-28-2011
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 9:45pm
I hope the reflux meds will help. It makes sense that something is causing real pain or discomfort. My DD always has a very hard time with teething for instance. I hope the little guy feels better soon and you can all get a good night's rest :-)