Which is worse? I think I know

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Registered: 03-19-2007
Which is worse? I think I know
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Tue, 10-19-2010 - 11:20am

Okay, so I posted recently about our 4 month old (now 4.5 months), not sleeping.

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Registered: 10-21-2008
Tue, 10-19-2010 - 1:23pm

You are doing the right thing, your baby will be fine and he needs sleep as badly as you do.




baby

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Registered: 03-19-2007
Tue, 10-19-2010 - 3:27pm

It's the most frustrating thing in the world, isn't it.

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Registered: 10-21-2008
Tue, 10-19-2010 - 4:12pm
Will he nap in the stroller? Go for a walk, clear your head and try again tomorrow. You can also just start with nights - bedtime and night wakings. Feed, change if needed and lay him back down. I hate the boob naps, it's such a vicious cycle. Do you ever pump and give a bottle? I used to do that to 'reset' Lucas as the more tired he got, the less he actually took in at the breast, he was simply napping on me. So after a full bottle I knew I didn't have to BF him for a few hours and he would have to fall asleep another way!

I forgot to mention, a sleep sac is great for crib rolling around. They don't get tangled in blankets, stay warm and they can't get their legs stuck in the crib rails!



baby

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Registered: 07-07-2008
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 7:03am

it sucks to have to sleep train but sometimes we need to do things we never thought we would have to do or want to do in order for our kids to get the sleep they need.

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Registered: 03-19-2007
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 9:11am

Hi again. Nope, neither of my kids have ever napped in the stroller. In fact, they hate the stroller beyond a few minutes, they just scream and get super fidgetty.

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Registered: 03-19-2007
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 9:15am

I do feel like i am hurting him in some way, the guilt is horrendous. I did all the attachment parenting stuff with my first and while it certainly helped us survive through the sleeplessness for a while, when we kept it up in the later stages it only caused further sleep deprivation so we ended up sleep training. An online friend of mine got really upset with me I remember, telling me I should just sacrifice and let him sleep on the boob some more. Until when, until he's 2 or until I lose my marbles or break my back from sleeping in contorted positions to allow him to stay latched on all night? Anything can be taken to an extreme. I look back on photos of Xavier and see how exhausted he looked and it makes me feel horrible.

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Registered: 03-19-2007
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 9:16am

He won't take a bottle by the way.

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Registered: 10-21-2008
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 1:20pm

I'm so sorry that you are stuck in this!!




baby

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Registered: 03-19-2007
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 11:52am

Thanks for all of your suggestions, GREAT ideas!! Gabe will often outlast both of us; he will scream in dh's face for 20 minutes until he gives up and passes him to me, insisting the kid is hungry (when I just fed him of course LOL).