Have Your Parents Been Disappointing Grandparents?

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Have Your Parents Been Disappointing Grandparents?
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Wed, 10-13-2010 - 8:07am

Have Your Parents Been Disappointing Grandparents? How Did You Handle It?

Sometimes our parents -- no matter how great they were when we were kids -- are less-than-wonderful grandparents. Maybe they slack off when they're watching our kids. Or they constantly criticize our parenting decisions. Or they're absentee -- not even visiting their grandchildren! Have you experienced grandparent behavior like this? If so, how did you handle it? And what's your best advice for other moms going through the same thing?

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ahhhhhhhhhhh ;) this is a fun one for me. over all my mom has been a super super involved (little much sometimes!) grandma.

a lot of our problems started with the fact that she watches a lot of house, and therefore thinks she is a doctor. she hasn't read a thing about pregnancy since 1971 when my brother was born, and most of her info even then came from her mother, who hadn't learned anything new since the 40's with her first.. SO.. a lot of her ideas were VERY out dated

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Oh, Amy! That is hysterical! I'm sure it isn't funny when you are dealing with it regularly but it sure did give me a good laugh. HUGS!

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Fri, 10-15-2010 - 12:34pm

hehe:) I could write a book and share the "joy"

Her latest is that she thought her coming here to take care of Piper while I have the baby would be too disruptive, so she was going to drive from Cleveland to Philly, pick her up at least a week before my DD, then keep her for a week or two after I had the baby and drive her back.

and couldn't figure out why I thought that was a bad idea. b/c we were so tired after bringing Piper home, now with 2 we will never sleep

her chain smoking aside, my baby does not go that far away from me for weeks and weeks and weeks and come back to find us hanging out with a new baby. PROBABLY not the best start to sibling relationships:)

OH! and my mil now says i shouldn't even attempt BF because I won't have time while caring for both and Piper will become so insanely jealous that she will want some to and will freak out and try to latch on.

(she was only bf a week, then i ep due to some issues - she doesn't know what bf is! lol)

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