6 Wks Up..Back on Slave Ship

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Registered: 04-05-2003
6 Wks Up..Back on Slave Ship
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Sat, 04-05-2003 - 10:41am
Hi I have a 5 weeks old daughter and I have to go back to work on April 14th. I spent the first 2 weeks not wanting to be home, but now I'm sick to my stomach that each day passes. It's a day closer that I have to be away from her. I just bought my pump and I'm going to start my milk storage on Monday. Is there anybody who's returning back to work or just went back who can offer me any words to ease my stomach?

I thought I made a good choice in the daycare (it's 5 minutes from my work), but I ran into an ex-employee there and she goes off about how it's an awful place. She was fired when new management came on board at this daycare...should I take her words seriously or with a grain of salt?

This is my second baby (first being 7 1/2 years old), but I am soo nervous. I was able to stay out for 6 months with my son, but I feel soooo bad leaving my daughter at 6 weeks. Help??? How's it out there with work after baby?

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sat, 04-05-2003 - 4:49pm
i had to go back to work at 6 weeks with both of mine, so i know how hard it is. at least you are close to the dc so you can visit easily when your scedule allows. a lot of us are in the same boat, and this board is a great place to come for support when you need it. as far as the words of the ex-employee are concerned, i would probably be wondering if she isn't just venting after being let go. however, if i were in your position, i would also keep my eyes open. Have you met the infant room staff? Are you happy with the ratio of baby:caregiver? Happy with the number of babies the room can take at their max capacity? Happy with the activities they do during the day? The environment in general? What changes occurred with the coming of the new management (aside from firing your informer)? Are you happy with those changes, i.e. does the director or directors seem to have a child care philosophy you share/can live with? Etc., etc. Presumably you are going to be visiting at some point during the work day. perhaps you should just take a few weeks to observe, get some questions answered and make sure this particular situation is a good fit for you and your daughter. know the dc "chain of command"--if you observe anything that seems unsatisfactory, talk to the supervisor/director and pay attention to how they receive and respond to your concerns. follow your instincts on this one--i'm sure you'll make the right decision. let us know how it turns out! jen
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sun, 04-06-2003 - 7:37pm
I went back at 9 weeks with this one, but at 6 weeks with #1 and 5 weeks with #2. Yes, it's hard, but every day gets a little easier.

As for the ex-employee...I would wonder why *she* was fired. That sent up some red flags in my mind and it seems like she is a little sour. I would take anything she says with a grain of salt. Trust you instinct, visit often...if you don't like what you see bring it up with the care giver. It's your child, don't be intimidated to direct the care you want your child to receive. Talk to other parents as well, especially those that have been through the management change and see what they have to say about it. Maybe someone knows this ex-employee and can give you a different perspective. If you're not satisfied after all that, then by all means find a different place.

Good luck,

Armella with alum Camryn(1), Taylor(11) and Erik(10)

Armella

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 04-07-2003 - 11:08am
Iwent back to work after six weeks too and my older child is 8 1/2 years old. With my older one I was in law school and my schedule was a lot more flexible. I am back as afull time attorney but I did ask that my hours be cut back for a while as I am nursing and that wasn't a problem. I am currently working 8:30 to 4pm -- that way I only have to leave 2 bottles of EBM for the baby and can feed him at 5pm.

If you can work even one hour less a day it makes a huge difference in transitioning back to work. Also, this board has givrn me great support and encourangement knowing we are doing a great thing for our babies!!

You will do great!

Eva W&P for Jamie 10 weeks

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Mon, 04-07-2003 - 4:50pm
Oh yes, I can relate -

I used to cry thinking about returning to work, but you will survive!

It does get easier - I never feel like crying now - weeks 1 and 2 are tough - I personally did not call to check on my moo the first day - I did not want to hear she was crying - what would I do? She was fine.

The good news is when they are thar young they will not miss you like when they are 6 or 9 months - theyt learn to like daycare and love seeing you when you get home.

Hugs honey.