Ignorant comments

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Registered: 04-28-2005
Ignorant comments
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Thu, 08-30-2012 - 7:35am

On FaceBook, I have a girl that I went to highschool with.  I wouldn't exactly call her a friend, more of someone I remember from class.  Yesterday this girl posted in her status that she saw a woman changing her child's diaper on a Church's front lawn, and said the child looked to be about 5, and then said that maybe it was time for this mother to teach her child to potty train.  Since my son was born 6 years ago, I have become more aware of challenges that parents face, and it angers me that people who should know better make comments like this.  How does she know that the child does not have a condition that prevents him from going to the bathroom went he wants to as opposed to when his body does. 

Sorry, I to vent!

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Registered: 05-18-2005
Fri, 08-31-2012 - 4:58pm

I feel you on that one--by July, my ds was the only child in his daycare class who wasn't trained.  He has poor trunk stability in a seated position, and it's making him really afraid of sitting on the potty.  We don't want to push it to the point where he develops a complex about it, so we're sending him to preschool in Sept. in diapers.  Luckily, he qualified for a SN preschool where they're totally cool with that and don't even mind changing him.  His lower body motor development is closer to typical, and a casual observer wouldn't see anything "wrong" despite his upper body motor issues and SPD.

Gwen

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Registered: 04-28-2005
Thu, 08-30-2012 - 5:19pm

You bet I replied.  Things don't usually bother me as I am a very laid back person, and never voice my opinion, but I could let it go; it really bothered me.  I wasn't snotty or anything, just simply stated that there are medical conditions that make it difficult to train within the normal time frame, or make it impossible.  I used the exaple of my son's friend whose mother sends him to school (he's 5) in a diaper so that he doesn't have wet pants as he has Autism.  I told her that some childrens issues are "hidden" and not as noticable as my son's (as an example) where he walks differently (you know something is "wrong"). 

She did write back and said that she didn't consider that probably because she didn't have children of her own; but made a point to say that she was taken back because the woman was changing the child on the Church's lawn.

 

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Registered: 02-10-2012
Thu, 08-30-2012 - 4:08pm
Don't you just want to reply, "be grateful that you have healthy and developmentally on target children, when that mother might not be as lucky as you?". People are just plain stupid when it comes to their comments, and they don't realize how ignorant they appear. Are you going to comment on her status?