Sibling Balance

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Registered: 09-17-2011
Sibling Balance
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Sat, 11-19-2011 - 12:08pm

I'm writing today because I need advice on achieving balance between my two girls.

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In reply to: mirno
Sat, 11-19-2011 - 6:36pm
As the mother of five kids, I totally understand what you are talking about. I have tried to implement a system that when I run an errand, I take one kid for a little one on one time. I also have "dates" with the kids. Take Emma to the park and have your parents watch Mia for an hour. Take Emma to lunch at McDonald's or something like that alone on a day you don't have anything to do with Mia. I know that is WAY easier to say than do, I live the life too ;)

I try to make sure that I am really attentive and loving all the time, but I know I get distracted and Madison's medical issues suck up a lot of my time. Some of my kids are old enough to understand the difference. My 3 year old though, gets very jealous of Madison and all the therapists that come to the house to see her, but luckily our therapists have come to love Emily just as much even though they aren't here for her. Recently we have been really working to get Madison to eat orally (she has a feeding tube) so our speech therapist brought in a bunch of therapy feeding tools, and bless her, she brought a "special spoon" for Emily too. Talk to your therapists about ways to include Emma in Mia's therapy, especially as you start in the home services with your EIP.

Hugs (again) Miriam and know that you aren't alone in all of your questions. I still find myself there most days :)
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In reply to: mirno
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 1:33pm

The above post is very good.

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In reply to: mirno
Mon, 12-12-2011 - 9:15am

Hi.

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In reply to: mirno
Wed, 12-21-2011 - 4:00pm

About how "they turn out" when they have a special needs sibling.

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In reply to: mirno
Wed, 12-21-2011 - 5:15pm

I will second that as someone who grew up with an autistic sibling (now 45 and still very much part of our family).

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