Activities

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Activities
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Tue, 08-28-2012 - 11:44am

Hi all,

This is kind of a spin-off of the scouts thread but it is something I've been thinking about a lot lately and I'd love your feedback.

Do you require your boys to be involved in *something*? I ask because I cannot for the life of me get Cooper interested in anything.  We've done soccer, t-ball, baseball, and Cub Scouts and it was a fight to get him to every single practice/event/game.  He just has no interest in being involved in anything! Do you ask that your kids join something to stay active? What do you do when your child doesn't want to join?

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Registered: 06-27-2006
Thu, 08-30-2012 - 9:24am
Ugh! I feel ya, Kristy. None of my boys have ever been really interested in sports.

We give them the choice but don't require it.

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Thu, 08-30-2012 - 10:43am
I'm glad I'm not alone, Dana! It sure is frustrating, isn't it? My biggest concern is just that I want him to be active so that he doesn't get into trouble as he gets older. Does that make sense? I know I was such an active teen- I certainly didn't have time to get into trouble! My DH, on the other hand, wasn't involved with anything and the stories he tells me about things he got into just frighten me!

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Registered: 03-24-2005
Fri, 08-31-2012 - 9:29am

I've always encouraged my boys to get involved in something, but I don't force them.  I figure they work hard in school and they have chores I require around the house and that's probably enough "have-to's" in their lives.  I think extra-curriculars should be something they enjoy and that gives them a sense of belonging to a group they're comfortable with.  I really do wish Alex would do more than just his fencing lesson once a week, but I think that battle is lost.  He's just not a kid who's comfortable in groups.  Lucas does band and he tutors, so that's something.  He tried track for a couple of seasons, but he really didn't like all the practices.  He's never been a kid who did very well with having a lot on his schedule.  He's always needed a lot of unstructured time.  

If it makes you feel any better, Kristy, I was involved in just about nothing in HS and I never got into any trouble.  The only thing I joined was the forensics team.  (I had hoped it would help me become more comfortable with public speaking, but it didn't work, lol.)  I spent a lot of time just hanging out with my friends, but we never got into any trouble.  We were all pretty much straight arrows (dorks? lol).  I think that watching who their friends are is really important.  (As I've mentioned, this has been an issue with Alex.  Grrrrrrr.) 

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Re: Activities
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 8:33pm
I forgot, ds is in band and plays the trombone. He loves it and has played for 5 years now. He also has taken guitar lessons, but we had stop them due to lack of time.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 03-24-2005
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 6:51am

Lucas plays the trombone too.  We have a lot of trombone players on the board!

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Mon, 09-10-2012 - 12:01pm
We do! That's funny, too, because in our local area, there doesn't seem to be many kids interested in playing it! There are only two trombone players total in Jacob's band this year and there wasn't a single other one at the music lesson/place we took Jacob to this past weekend.

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Re: Activities
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 12:08pm
jacobandcoopersmommy wrote:
My kids are big with sports either. They are hard for them, so I can understand why sports don't appeal to them. I'd be happy with *something* too. Jacob does band now and he participates in soccer and baseball too. I just want Cooper to find his *something*. He's mentioned piano lessons before, but we don't even own a piano! Do you own one?

No, I wish we did but there is no room in our small house for one. BUT, we did find a way to squeeze in a keyboard ( I think it only has 8 less keys than a piano) and he uses that to practice. 

And you guys aren't going to believe this but guess what instrument my son plays in band? Yep...the trombone!! 

Lisa 

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Mon, 09-10-2012 - 7:38pm

Okay, that's just crazy!  Like Kristy said, the trombone is not a popular instrument here either, so how weird that we have at least 4 trombonists just on our little board!

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Mon, 09-10-2012 - 9:58pm

I just asked Matthew how many other trombone players they had and he said "just me and 1 other person". He said when he 1st started band in 5th grade, there were like 12 trombone players,in 6th grade it dropped to around 5 kids, and now in 7th, it's just 2.

What a crazy coincidence that there's 4 parents of tromobonists just on this board!

Lisa 

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Tue, 09-11-2012 - 9:59am
In Jr high, they still had 8 players, I think. Not sure about HS, never asked him. We could have our own all trombone band.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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