anyone feel similar...

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anyone feel similar...
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Thu, 05-12-2011 - 11:08am

I was watching something on tv before when a couple was having trouble with fertility and they just wouldn't give up b/c the woman felt like she was a mother without a child so she could NEVER feel complete.

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Fri, 05-13-2011 - 10:28am

I always pictured myself as a mother to boys, and always "felt" like a boys' mom, so in that sense I feel like I am the mom I expected to be.

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Fri, 05-13-2011 - 1:08pm

thanks, those shirts were a gift at my baby shower from my SIL, they made me excited to have little man #3 for the first time. I know, I love the stuck in the middle one too, and I'm the middle child too

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Sun, 05-15-2011 - 7:44pm
I have always felt like a boy mom too, but I understand what you mean. It does make it hard sometimes when people tell me all of the things I am missing out on by having only boys. I just plan on having all of those things with any future nieces or granddaughters. I hope you get that one day too.
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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 10:32am

Looks like there are a few of us 'middle children' here with all boys! What's with that? I wish I would have had a 'stuck in the middle' shirt! Maybe I need one now that says 'Only girl' ;-) Get DH and the boys shirt's that just say 'Boy' or something. LOL

I do have a couple of girls that I get to do some girl things with but I can understand how you're feeling. I hope you can find some girls to do girly things with too! I know it will never be the same though.


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Registered: 03-22-2007
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 12:59pm
I still have a hard time with it occasionally, but it's gotten better over the years (my youngest is 7). It took some grieving during my pregnancy with him, and still would hit me sometimes after that. I still want to know how my athletic brother ended up with 3 girly girls (although they all play sports)! I also hate feeling like the odd man out in my family, all of my other siblings have at least one girl and sometimes I felt like they see me as defective for only having boys.

Now looking back, I'm not sure I would have been up to a lot of the drama that girls bring with them. I do feel bad that I'm going to miss out on helping plan a wedding, and watching my daughter have a child of her own. I just really hope that I have some future DILs that are willing to share some of that with me.

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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 8:18pm
I do feel left out when someone is planning mother/daughter, father/son or even father/daughter things and there just isn't anything for mother/son activities. I taught a class at church when we did this "U and UR Girl" thing, and it looked like so much fun for the moms and daughters. My husband takes our son to a "Day out with dad" every year at the football hall of fame and they have an amazing time. It seems like there are father daughter dances on the news around her all the time.

So when is someone going to plan something like this for moms and their boys?
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