Hope it's a girl!

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Registered: 09-23-2008
Hope it's a girl!
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Sun, 04-24-2011 - 8:05pm

I am SO sick of people saying this to us.. We have four boys and I'm currently eleven weeks pregnant with our last and all I ever hear is how everyone hopes it is a girl, how we'd finally have a complete family, how much I'm missing by not having a girl.. Don't forget everytime some stranger finds out we are pregnant and we hear the same things.. With our last boy we actually had people disappointed and literally upset.. I just don't get it at all! We are so happy with our family and I fully expect we'll have another boy and there is not one bone in my body that isn't okay with that.


Anyone else get this? How do you reply because honestly I'm at the point of it being hard to not be rude!

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Sun, 04-24-2011 - 10:56pm
Hi there!

Oh, I remember these comments well. I remember how badly they ticked me off too. The "oh, I'm so sorry" or "you can always try again" comments are just maddening!

I wish I had a great comeback for you... but I don't. I really just had to let it roll off my shoulders after a while and just not listen to the ignorant remarks I got. You and your family will be happy regardless of baby's sex and in the long run, that's what matters!



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Registered: 10-28-2005
Mon, 04-25-2011 - 9:13am

I'm sorry you're having to deal with that. I was always told that having all of the same sex would be easier in that you didn't have to run to baseball in one direction and dance in another.

I always loved the witty replies - like my mom when told she looked to young to have three kids. She'd reply that they were her husband's first wife's children - just not mentioning that she was his first wife ;-)

Something snappier than - I hope he or she is healthy would be nice though!


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Registered: 03-24-2005
Mon, 04-25-2011 - 1:00pm

I hate when people say stupid things like that!

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Registered: 03-22-2007
Mon, 04-25-2011 - 1:07pm
BTDT! It really makes me mad when they would make comments in front of my oldest, how do they think it makes your other boys feel? I get to the point where I'm just not nice about it, or I get snarky!
I have a set of twins, and reached my fill of comments with them. I tend to just give rude people a very rude look back ;)

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Registered: 04-05-2009
Mon, 04-25-2011 - 3:28pm
Just a lurker with a comment... I am a mother to 3 boys pregnant with number 4 and in all honesty I'm hoping for a girl! Can you ladies really say that the thought of having a little girl instead of another boy has never crossed your mind? I get the comments about it's another boy I'm sorry but hey it would be nice to get my little girl but the comments I always come back well he sure is heathy and I'm ready to be a t-ball coach! Or Oh I'm sorry to hear your 14 yo daughter is pregnant lol that will be the only thing we don't have to worry about and we can stay the #1 witch in the house and nit have to worry about a pmsing like girl who want to have sex and get pregnant because we have messed up her life! Lol
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Registered: 03-24-2005
Mon, 04-25-2011 - 9:28pm

Congrats on #4!

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Mon, 04-25-2011 - 11:25pm
Hi Kami,

I'll admit that I have always wanted a girl. I was sure Jacob was a girl (wrong!) and cried when I found out Cooper was a boy. With Landon I just knew he would be a boy so I didn't mind either way and was so happy he was healthy. We are done having children now and I think there is a bit of a mourning process that happens knowing that I'll never have a girl. I always pictured myself with at least one girl... but I strongly believe that there is a plan for me and that I was meant to have all boys. I agree with Laura that both sexes have their own sets of issues and concerns but I just adore my boys! I honestly cannot imagine life in any other way!

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Registered: 12-19-2007
Tue, 05-03-2011 - 12:02pm

I have 3 boys and I can't tell you how many times I get...you're not going for the girl...and another piece of my heart breaks...damn people, I've been trying all along for a girl!

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Registered: 02-22-2004
Wed, 05-04-2011 - 8:50pm
I had comments right up to being in pre-op holding before my 3rd c-section. I was having a tubal and the nurse had the audacity to say she hoped I was having a girl since I was having my tubal done. When I said I was having a boy she questioned if I really wanted to end my chances. Ummmm YES!

I won't say I never pictured myself with a girl and I did have a twinge of disappointment when I found out my first was a boy. I thought my second was a girl only because my pregnancy was soooo different....wrong again. LOL By the third time around, I just knew it was a boy and was thankful to have all the same gender.

People make stupid comments and don't realize the impact they are having on your (or your other children) when they say that stuff. My answer was always "If God wanted me to have a girl, He would have given my one" and that is my belief. I think I'm a good "boy" mom and would never have the patience with the fluff and hair and drama that my friends go through with their girls. :-)

HAPPY AND HEALTHY is my motto for ANY pregnancy!

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Registered: 12-19-2007
Sun, 05-08-2011 - 9:48am

I love that...if God wanted me to have a girl, he would've given me one!

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