How Should Children Address Adults?

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How Should Children Address Adults?
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Mon, 07-11-2011 - 12:20pm

"Susan" or "Mrs. Smith": How Should Kids Address Adults?- http://www.ivillage.com/etiquette-advice-how-should-kids-address-adults/6-a-362479

What do you think?

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Tue, 07-12-2011 - 11:52am
I've never been much of stickler about this one. I think it depends a lot on how close we are to the person. If it is someone we know well, we'll address them by their first name and the children will as well. If we don't know them well, we will address them as Mrs or Mr and so will the boys.

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Registered: 03-24-2005
Tue, 07-12-2011 - 1:51pm

I'm with you, Kristy.

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Registered: 07-14-2002
Tue, 07-12-2011 - 11:16pm
I was not raised to address adult as "Mrs. Smith" or "Miss Susan" so its very awkward for me to teach my children that. Some of my friends have their children address me as "Mrs. B....." or "Miss Beth". I prefer "Miss Beth" to "Mrs. B....." (that just makes me feel old lol). But when/if I try to make my kids do the same, I just feel...fake I guess. lol Because I wasn't raised that way and it feels so foreign to me. But I do think it sounds more respectful for a child to refer to an adult as Mrs. so-in-so. I try to have my boys do that, but not as often as I should probably. lol
If the adult is someone we know well, then they just use the first name.

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Wed, 07-13-2011 - 12:55pm
I wasn't raised that way either, Bethany. It really does feel odd/awkward to teach my kids to do it. I know how you feel!

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Registered: 02-22-2004
Sun, 07-24-2011 - 2:41am
If we are very close with the adults, the kids tend to address them by their first names. If we feel a bit more formality is needed, we may add the Miss/Mrs/Mr to their first names (teachers we know outside of school, our regular babysitter, the neighbors who are a generation older than us, or the pastor and his wife who we are close friends with). I picked this up more from other parents doing it as DH and I didn't do this as kids. As the boys have gotten older and they are introduced to new adults, especially ones that are older than DH & myself, they are introduced as Mr & Mrs........

Personally, I am absolutely fine with kids calling me by my first name (especially when they are little) but have found myself being called Miss Lisa or Mrs. K..... more and more often. Some of that comes from teaching at church, I think. The "title" sets you off as an authority figure. And after some issues with the teen/tween friends, being seen as an authority figure is probably not a bad thing. ;-)

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