Raising Teen Boys: What Mom Needs to Know

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Raising Teen Boys: What Mom Needs to Know
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Mon, 09-16-2013 - 7:42am

I spend a lot of time thinking about boys -- their aversion to haircuts, their obsessive interest in technology and why they constantly leave their dirty socks lying around. I worry about how my two middle school sons will handle being, according to what they tell me, the only boys on the planet who do not have an X-box. I marvel when my second grade son drops to the ground to try doing push ups and tells me he’s working on his six-pack. I worry about all four of my sons navigating a school system that sometimes seems to be dominated by more communicative and organized girls.

With these and other concerns about raising four boys, I dove into Rosalind Wiseman’s new book, Masterminds and Wingmen: Helping Your Son Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World. Author of the best-selling Queenbees and Wannabees, Wiseman interviewed over 160 boys (ages 10 to 20) to present an eye-opening portrait of the life of boys from middle school and beyond. Among her unexpected findings are these six things that all moms of teen boys should know.

6 Things About Teen Boys All Moms Should Know- http://www.ivillage.com/raising-teen-boys-masterminds-and-wingmen-book/6-a-546726

Interesting points!  What did you think of the list?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-2006
Great things to know! The whole porn thing scares the bejeezees out of me!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-2006

Great things to know!  The whole porn thing scares the bejeezees out of me!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
You and me both, Dana! I don't want to think of my innocent boys looking at those things... but chances are that it will happen eventually. Can't they just stay little forever?!?

Community Leader
Registered: 12-16-2003

It is so ironic you mentioned her today! Our high school district is having her give a lecture on that new book tomorrow night! I am going. She was here a while ago for girls too, when her first book came out. Since ds has been over seas and has seen more than I care to think about.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

Community Leader
Registered: 12-16-2003
Fri, 09-20-2013 - 11:02am

The talk was great. She has great insight on kids ' worlds. There is a free guide for boys called The Guide. It just has some great suggestions for boys on different situations.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2005

Very interesting.  I especially found the point about social roles interesting.  It got me wondering which roles my boys play.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
That is SO cool, Ramona! How totally ironic! I'm glad the talk was nice. What a great opportunity!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Me too, Laura! Very interesting stuff.

Community Leader
Registered: 12-16-2003
Wed, 09-25-2013 - 10:55pm

She was very clear that the roles are dynamic and could change often within the group.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2013

Puberty is huge in my 3 teen boys.  Lots of fights and attitude floating around.  My 14yr old is really going through a lot I guess.  He is a very clean person( not a problem with wanting things clean) but this goes way beyond keeping things straight.  He gets angry when I put things away or when I go grocery shopping and it's things he won't eat.  He tries to throw it away and we end up fighting.  I don't understand this behavior..does anyone else have teens like this?