So...I'm turning 30 in 2 days..UGH...

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So...I'm turning 30 in 2 days..UGH...
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Sat, 04-05-2003 - 7:43pm
Why is it such a big deal for me? It's not like I'm turning 60... but I just want to sit in my room and not be bothered.

Tonight we are going to my inlaws to celebrate my birthday plus my sil (she turned 27 a couple of days ago). Cool that we are celebrating together, right? I should be happy that they consider me family (dh and I have been married for 9 1/2 years, together for over 14). But I soooo do not want to go over there.

I would be much happier celebrating anyone else's birthday than mine. Secretly I hope for a big celebration *LOL* and I know that is not going to happen. I wouldn't know what to do if it happened *L* I hate being the center of attention. Everyone watching *L*

I guess the sad part is I've always wanted all my kids before I hit 30. So that's not gonna happen. Jay said that in a couple of years we can have another. Once we buy a house but I don't know if I will want one then. All the boys will be in school, man this next fall Jared will start preschool. What the heck am I gonna do then * L*

Anyway.. here I am freakin' out that I'm gonna be 30. I wanted to have all my kids by now, be healthier (lose some weight *LOL*) and meet my dad. Damn.. I didn't know that till I wrote it. It always come back down to that. Man..... that sucks!!!!

brief history for those who don't know. My mom never married him. I have never met him. He refuses to believe I existed. After my Grandpa died in 1995, I made an effort to find him. I made contact w/ his dad who had no idea about me. I was an emotional wreck.

this sucks.. well at least I know what my problem is and now I can get over it.

gonna be 30 *WOW* who would of thought

many blessings to all

Tina w/ Jasen (8) Jacob (5) and Jared (2) this is spring week.. will I survive!?!?

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Sat, 04-05-2003 - 8:09pm
I turned 30 on March 31st, honestly it feels like 29 still lol It isn't so bad, I promise! *hugs* for you in your time of sadness though, I never thought I'd see the really old age of 30 lol remember when 30 seemed like decades away? Now I can't believe how fast it went.. But it isn't 60, and by then, we'll have some grandkids lolol OY!

*hugs* and happy early birthday, let us know how your shindig goes

Trish

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Sat, 04-05-2003 - 10:05pm
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! And Trish, if you're "listening", a very happy belated one to you also. I truly hope that all of you b-day people have good ones!

And now, YOUNG ladies, I'm gonna let you in on how old I am. When I was approaching the big 3-0, my life was not where I had expected it to be by that point. (It's hard when we have a time-frame of where we want to "be" in life by a certain time.) Anyway, I was heading into my 30th b-day with a lousy job, my lemon-car was dying and gobbling gas, I had been very ill and had to return to work for the paycheck, had come off of a very painful relationship and the future wasn't looking too great. My mom told me to return to school and (her words) resign myself to being alone for the rest of my life because I would be 30 and un-married. (We still don't get along too well.) Turning 30 was a REALLY difficult birthday to face.

But I knew that I did eventually want to marry, and the "right" man was out there. I knew that life would get better, and I really wasn't worried. But I was disappointed that my life had not gone according to my timetable. Anyhows, two days before I turned 30, I met the man I would eventually marry. We dated often, enjoyed the same things, and maybe because we were older, we were clear on our goals and ready to pursue them. We were engaged within four months.

I had my oldest son at age 32 and my youngest at age 35. Turning 40 was a breeze - I was happy, not sick, had a home & two kids & two cats & a car that worked! And my kids did not care what NUMBER I was, which helped. And also, dh is a few months older than me, and he looks great!

So now........... I turned 44 (REALLY! lol) at the end of February, and I don't feel "old".

I hope you all survive these birthdays, and that you enjoy whatever party or celebration comes your way. The 30's are a wonderful decade in many ways - enjoy and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

~~HUGS!!!~~ --Bets--

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Sun, 04-06-2003 - 2:42pm
Happy Belated Birthday Trish!!!!!!!! So the big 3-0 isn't that bad?!? *LOL*

ya know once I figured out my problem.. I'm doing fine *L*

Yesterday was fun. My older boys made my sil stuff for her birthday: Jacob made two faces sticking out their tounges w/ that magic clay and Jasen wrote her a story a drew a pic. Was so much fun she about cried when she opened them up. Mil was jealous *LOL*! Though her boyfriend (they are getting married in Dec. and only want 1 of my boys to be the ring bearer.. they can't choose. UGH) kept asking me.. so you're 30? over and over and over again. He's a bit annoying.

thanks for the well wishes!

Tina

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Sun, 04-06-2003 - 2:46pm
Thanks Bets! I needed to hear that. I didn't want to tell anyone else that I was a bit bummed b/c it's only 30 *LOL* not 60. 30 nowadays is not old but I was making it a big deal.


You're life sounds great!

hugs and blessings,

Tina

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Sun, 04-06-2003 - 10:58pm
That's what's great about being 30, being able to figure out what the problem really is, and moving on...in my 20's I wasn't near as level headed as when I turned the big 30...I'm coming up fast on 37, but I'm really going to enjoy it...I love knowing who I am & where I'm going..I love finally knowing that I don't have to be in control as long as God is in control.. My agenda really doesn't matter, it's what He has in store for me & that's gotta be good. Here's where I find peace.

I wish you a wonderful birth day, party & to quote a dear friend & board buddy whose turning 30..."Blessing"

Hugs-ya-soon!

Nanc 36, Carlos 42 4Boys Steph 16, Taylor 13, Santana 4 & Jett 1



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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 3:05am
I had a really rough time with 30 too Tina, but all the birthdays since have been really easy.

Since I turned 30, we have bought our first house & had two more kids. I too was upset about the things that I thought I wanted to accomplish before 30 that I hadn't.

I'm glad to hear your party went well & will keep you in my prayers about meeting your Dad.

Denise

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 12:21pm
Well, I just turned 33 on April 3rd....


I know what you mean about turning 30. For some reason it seemed like a real turning point. I couldn't wait to be 21 and after that it all seemed downhill.

Hugs to you!

By the way, my boys still think I'm 30 ...LOL!

~Nancy

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 5:13pm
Thanks for the birthday wishes! *hugs*
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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 5:14pm
Thanks Betsy! *hugs*