What Mothers Must Do For Their Sons
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What Mothers Must Do For Their Sons
| Tue, 03-19-2013 - 11:40am |
I came by this article today and really wanted to share it here. It was written regarding the Steubenville rape, and the author discusses what we, as parents and especially mothers, need to do for our sons.
I think the part that stuck with me was the point about not shying away from telling our sons the truth about sex. I really (really!) struggle with this. I want to be open and honest with my boys, but I struggle with knowing how much to share and when.
How about you? Do you struggle with any of the points discussed in the article?
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That's a great article, Kristy. I have also always struggled with talking about sex. I have taught my boys about being kind and about respecting other people. I have taught them that in general they should not try to talk others into doing things they don't want to do, and should not be talked into things by others, and I hoped that as they got older that would translate into the sexual realm. I've always felt that I've fallen short in actually talking about sex directly, though. I have no problem talking about drugs, alcohol, smoking and suicide, but it's the sex stuff that always trips me up.
You and me both! I always wonder if this is a discussion that my DH should be having with them. I don't want to cause embarrassment, if that makes sense. I do talk to them about puberty, but that's as far as it goes really. It is a hard topic to be open about!
Actually, we have been using this case to talk about things, parties, drinking, being able to give convent, her word v your word, etc.... My ds turned 15 on Monday. He plays football and lacross. I tell him that stay with God's rules and you won't have to hauled up in front of a judge and the media. I also told him that a girl drinking might look like a an easy target, but it could screw up your life forever.
Ramona Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!
Hi Ramona,
I think it is awesome that you've been able to be so open with your son about this, and have been able to use this case as a jumping off point. It really needs to be talked about and if anything good (and I hate using the word good anywhere around something like this, but you know what I mean) can come from it, this is it.
This case hits close to home because they are football players and athletes.
Ramona Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!
I have no issues talking with kids about sex, my own or others. The alternative is too costly. The first thing a boy needs to hear, over and over and over: If you don't hear the word YES, assume the answer is NO.