... and then the toddler said "MINE!!!!"

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Registered: 02-29-2012
... and then the toddler said "MINE!!!!"
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 11:51am

My three year old has been amazingly easy. She is my third child and is fairly relaxed. However, we've had the word mine enter into our vocabulary.

How do you handle it when your kids call mine at things? A friend says that nothing is ours and belongs to everyone in the world. She only has one child to teach this to. I expect all three of my kids to have some things of their own, share as appropriate, and keep their things off public areas of the floor :) . In my preferred idea, for example, the small one has a hat that is hers and it isn't for the other children to wear under normal circumstances.

Last night, my three year old had a melt down over cheese pizza. We ordered three pizzas, although two were healthier. We still have pizza left over for lunch today. The plan was to make pizza dough and let the kids help make dinner, but one of the kids had practice, etc and we ended up just ordering some. The three year old doesn't throw a fit over the pizza when it is homemade and dished from the kitchen. I think my pizza is better, so if anyone is going to call a pizza, it should be the gourmet one.

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Registered: 04-20-2012

LOL! I remember those days! I don't think we did anything special to discipline- we mostly just rode it out, knowing it was a phase. Of course, if she took something of her sister's we made her give it back and such.

Have you see this? :smileyvery-happy:

1. If I like it, it's mine.
2. If it's in my hand, it's mine.
3. If I can take it from you, it's mine.
4. If I had it a little while ago, it's mine.
5. If it's mine, it must never appear to be yours in any way.
6. If I'm doing or building something, all the pieces are mine.
7. If it looks just like mine, it is mine.
8. If I saw it first, it's mine.
9. If you are playing with something and you put it down, it automatically becomes mine.
10. If it's broken, it's yours.
11. If it's broken, but you are having fun playing with the pieces, it's mine again.
12. If there is ANY doubt, it's mine.

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Registered: 02-29-2012
That made me laugh, thanks for sharing it.

We mostly have been riding it out, but want to help her adjust as much as possible. For now, I am just giving her choices, redirecting, and hoping she won't do that in public. ;)
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Registered: 01-27-2006
The Toddler Rule Of Acquisition, or something like that. those are hilarious!

both my kids, and my niece and nephew, went through a MINE phase. Even things that were clearly not theirs were "MINE".

I was just chatting with a friend earlier today, talking about the phrases we'd like removed from our children's vocabulary. MINE was one of them. The other was "me do it!" and, now that they're older, "in a minute".
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Registered: 09-08-2007
Yeah, my 2.5 year old son is going through this, as well as his terrible 2's, lots of tantrums in our house. Last night he pulled the MINE on his pj shirt, so I said "Yes it is yours, are you going to put it on, or is Mommy going to help you?" I ended up having to slightly wrestle it from him to get it on, but it wasn't too bad. We also had it happen over his toothpaste when I grabbed it. Again I told him "Yes, its your toothpaste, that is why Mommy is using it so she can check your teeth." So for my DS, acknowledging that some things are his helps a little. He has pulled it with things that aren't as well, and those times are harder, but we just keep reminding ourselves that its just a phase, and it will end, someday.
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Registered: 04-18-2003
Thu, 04-26-2012 - 10:38am

First of all, regarding your friend with the only child, be kind to her when the child is older and loses, breaks, dirties up or gives away stuff that is hers because "nothing is ours and belongs to everyone in the world". Second, you've received some good tips.


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Registered: 04-29-2012

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