AP-Friendly Tantrum Tactics?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2012
AP-Friendly Tantrum Tactics?
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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 11:50am

Hi,

I was wondering if anyone had some AP-friendly (i.e. please don't suggest spanking!) tactics for calming down tantrums? Usually, I'm pretty good at catching them before they get full-blown but if I miss the warning signs and she goes into "code-red" full on meltdown board, it's like there's no reaching her at all.

Help!

Community Leader
Registered: 04-18-2003
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 8:19pm

1. Talk to her in a soothing voice.

2. Make sure when you go out, she has a comfort item such as a blanket, stuffed animal, as long as it's easily washed..

3. Make sure she has something to snack on. Sometimes a meltdown is a result of being hungry.

4. Try to plan outings around her peak times.

5. Develop gving people a "go frick yourself" when they give you that "why don't you spank her and shut her up?" look.

GRIN, been there, done that, survived it. The section in The Mother of All Toddler books that has to do with dealing with temper tantrums is well thumbed.

Gail

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2006
Mon, 09-24-2012 - 10:04pm
And I'll add that you can remove her from the store or where ever you are to go sit outside for a little until she calms down. Sometimes tantrums are due to too much stimulation, like in a crowded store. Going outside will help diminish that stimulation.
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Community Leader
Registered: 04-18-2003
Tue, 09-25-2012 - 8:55am

Ohhhh, I can't believe I forgot that one! We had some "meltdown" sections in the mall and in the libraries we liked to go to. Lving in the snowbelt, it was easier to find quiet, secluded spots indoors. GRIN, I now remember some very kindhearted women in the family room who were helpful as they nonchalantly breastfed their baby.

Gail