Attachment parenting even if we don't do EVERYTHING that way?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2012
Attachment parenting even if we don't do EVERYTHING that way?
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Wed, 03-20-2013 - 11:39am

I was talking with some friends the other day and I mentioned that we practice attachment parenting. Another "friend" (I use that term loosely!) spoke up and said but you don't co-sleep or use cloth diapers, right? Well, no but I wasn't aware that attachment parenting required some kind of checklist of things that you HAD to do in order for your parenting style to be considered attachment parenting. To me, attachment parenting is a more general term that describes how you will approach parenting- providing a consistent, physical response (ex no cry it out), child-led feedings (no schedule), etc.

Who is right? Do you think someone has to do EVERYTHING in an attachment parenting way in order to consider themselves a follower of that parenting style?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2013

I agree with you, I don't think there is some set of rules or things you HAVE to do. I absolutely consider myself an attacment parent but there's no way I could do cloth diapers! Just...no.

Also, because I work, I have to pump and bottle feed quite often. There are some who say if you practice attachment parenting, you must be a stay at home mom who breastfeeds exclusively. I don't agree with that either.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-25-2012

I guess I'm just curious as to why you are against co-sleeping and cloth diapering if you're an attachment parent.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2012

Thanks! I feel a little bit redeemed now :)

Community Leader
Registered: 04-18-2003

I did the room-sharing level of co-sleeping. I breastfeed and when I couldn't, I still fed on demand, with love. We followed our son's cues. He LOATHED being confined which mean a carrier wasn't an option. Cloth diapers was a case of trying it and decided to go to disposable. We don't do CIO, we still arrange our lives so one of us is home when our son leaves for school and one is home when he arrives (or at least shortly after he gets home. I rely on public transit to get around). As for discipline, we use non-physical methods. When you get suspended from school and have to repay Mom lost wages because she couldn't work, that has WAY more of an impact than a yelling and a spanking, LOL! We consider ourselves AP when he was 10 days old and consider ourselves AP now that he's coming up on 11 years old.

Gail