Baby leashes aren't AP?!?

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Registered: 01-23-2012
Baby leashes aren't AP?!?
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Wed, 06-26-2013 - 1:22pm

What do you guys think of those baby leashes?I admit, I used to be a bit judgemental towards those that used them but that was BEFORE I had kids! Now I see just how great they are for keeping kids safe, especially in crowded places.

However, I was recently told by a friend who saw me using one with my child that "baby leashes aren't very AP". Whaaatt??? I'm not a very confrontational person so I didn't say anything at the time but it's been really eating at me since. What do you all think?

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Wed, 06-26-2013 - 2:19pm

Saw this on the main page, my kids are adults now and I hadn't heard of A.P. when they were small, so couldn't say if using a leash fits with the philosophy. I used one sometimes, it was ideal in certain situations. The child gets to explore and feel some independence while being kept safe. 

I would ignore what people say and do what feels right to you. People will always have opinions, and some will give you theirs whether you want to know or not...in the end you are the person responsible for your child's wellbeing and safety and not anybody else. If it works for you and your child then do it, as long as it works.

ETA: I just read the thread about "doing everything" and apparently I did practice A.P. (including using cloth diapers lol) but I guess we didn't call it that back then. This reinforces my response about the leash, if the child is comfortable with it then its okay because it lets the child choose whether s/he wants to be next to mom or 3 ft away, but you both know you are still connected= both feel more secure.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Wed, 06-26-2013 - 2:27pm

Just read the thread about "doing everything" and apparently we did practice A.P. (including using cloth diapers lol) but I guess we didn't call it that back then. 

It reinforces my above response, the leash allows the child to choose whether s/he wants to be next to mom or 3 ft away but you both know that you are still connected=both feel more secure.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 06-26-2013 - 4:36pm

I am no expert on attachment parenting but it seems to me that you would only need a baby leash for a toddler--most people aren't going to carry a toddler around all the time anyway--they are too heavy.  So if you aren't using a stroller, then the alternative is holding the child's hand--since they didn't have those baby leashes when my kids were small, I was always holding hands--and sometimes I felt like I was going to pull the child's arm out of the socket when they were trying to get away.  lol  It would have been a lot easier to use a baby leash--some I have seen are attached to a cute backpack, like a teddy bear, so they look less like a dog leash!  I really dont' like it when people have "rules" about what you have to do to belong to their "club" of a parenting style.  I think we should all just do what we feel is best for our family and ignore the people who tell you you should be doing this or that.

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Registered: 04-18-2003
Mon, 07-22-2013 - 2:53pm

For what it's worth, it doesn't matter what your parenting choices are, you are going to have people who will question the use of a child leash. The more independent ones feel that if you properly discipline your toddler, they will not stray from your side, the more permissive ones feel that you shouldn't curb your child's natural inclinations, and actually it just dawned on me most people claim a leash is AP because it's a compromise to not being able to sling your toddler.

Gail