Joining you!!

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Registered: 01-02-2010
Joining you!!
Sat, 01-02-2010 - 7:07am

HI everyone!!

I am a proud attatched parent. I have believed in this philosiphy since before I knew it had a name! I have always worked with kids and got my degree in child psychology and development. I have been an au Pair in Canada, U.S and Europe and have always used attatched parenting styles. It would break my heart to enter a home and see babies left for hours in front of TVs in bouncy chairs. I found much less of this in Europe where the sling is more the norm.

When I got pregnant with Teddy My husband and I agreed that this was the best way to raise a child. We took a prenatal class taught by a doula which just reaffirmed everything we believe in. We had a midwife and loved the experience. I now attend the La Leche group and have found that most of the women there are also attatched parents.

Yesterday we went to my husbands friends house for dinner. They had a baby just 2 weeks younger then Teddy. They have the opposite view of parenting. In fact, when I pulled out the sling the wife was shocked that I wear one. She said her husband is opposed to them because he said she could fall and kill the baby(!) And boy did we ever get an

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Registered: 01-31-2007
In reply to: mum2teddy
Sat, 01-02-2010 - 11:43pm

Welcome!!! Glad to have you join us!

I have a 15 mo and have been AP since she was born. AP has been a blessing for us. It has been very hard though because none of our family members or friends share in our parenting choices. I have recently had a situation with my SIL that I posted about on here. My mom, my MIL, my sister (who doesn't have any kids of her own,) and just about everyone else keeps trying to tell me that I am doing everything wrong and I am going to pay for it later. I keep waiting to see when "later" is because I have not regretted one AP choice that I have made to this day.

This board has been great and the ladies on here are so supportive. I just don't understand how people can't get why those of us who are AP choose to parent that way. It just makes sense to me. Everything is so natural and easy (well as easy as parenting a toddler can be! :-)

Anyway, welcome again and look forward to hearing more from you!!!

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Registered: 10-28-2005
In reply to: mum2teddy
Wed, 01-06-2010 - 11:24am

I think it's great that your dh noticed Teddy being happier than the other child. It seems like so many dh's are not involved with their children enough - at least the people I meet IRL. I've caught my dh bragging about something our kids do which I attribute to AP and/or homeschooling - which I feel continues our AP approach.

I agree that the proof is in the pudding and that's our reward. I don't let it bug me when people say I'm spoiling them!

Welcome to the board. We're always glad to see new faces!

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Registered: 01-30-2008
In reply to: mum2teddy
Wed, 01-06-2010 - 4:30pm

Welcome and Congratulations!

I'm Darcy. Both of my children were Ap'd from birth. Like you, even before I knew it had a name I just figured I was following my instincts. My inlaws were pretty appalled at the fact that I was not only nursing but nursing on demand. Even my