Nap time

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Registered: 09-14-2007
Nap time
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Tue, 01-26-2010 - 11:05am

Hi everyone:


I'm having a really tough time with nap time with Ali. She fights sleep so badly. I mean, I can tell she's exhausted. Her eyes are puffy and barely open and she's yawning. But she won't go to sleep. Out of desperation I've tried to let her CIO a few times in her crib. (I'm so mad at myself for doubting my instincts and listening to others who told me to do that.) Today was the last time I tried and I won't do it again. She got so hysterical and when I laid down in bed with her went to sleep right away. That didn't make me feel better; it made me feel worse! I read from Dr Sears that sometimes when parents let kids CIO and they finally go to sleep they think they've finally had a victory. But, in reality, all they've done is traumatized the child and most kids will sleep deeply right after being traumatized. *sigh* Now I'm terrified I've traumatized her and feel horrible.


It doesn't help that we just moved, all our stuff was destroyed in a fire on moving day, and a lot of other bad stuff has happened over the last 3 weeks. It's been super tense in our household and I've noticed that she's been super clingy. I think between all the crazines and then living in a new house with none of the stuff she's used to, it's just really thrown her off.


Do you think I'm expecting too much from her right now? Should I just let this all go and do the best I can with her until things settle down? Should I just not worry that she's riled up lately? Any suggestions for nap time?


Thanks everyone!


MarlenaAli616.jpg Ali picture by gal_marlena

MarlenaAli616.jpg Ali picture by gal_marlena

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Registered: 01-30-2008
In reply to: gal_marlena
Wed, 01-27-2010 - 10:41am

I think you need to calm down and breathe. (((BIG HUGS))) I guarantee that you haven't traumatized her. Crying does take a lot out of them. She'll be fine. If things have been tense at home as I would expect it is after the fire and other bad things you mentioned, she's feeling your tension too which is going to make her tense and clingy. Plus being in a new house is a lot of changes, not just for her but for all of you.


I think you should let it go. If she wants to rock to sleep, do that. At 10 months both of my kids were still nursing to sleep. Try giving her some extra cuddle time and try to keep your own emotions in check. At this age, so much of what they feel about their situation is how we react. If you're tense, she will be as well.


Focus on getting everything settled down. Once life is back top normal you can re-establish a routine and if you want to, focus on getting her to fall asleep herself. I would not be trying to do that though while everything else is still in upheaval.


Hang in there and I'm so sorry about all of the negative stuff. Things will get better soon and this will all just be in the past! (((HUGS)))

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Registered: 04-18-2003
In reply to: gal_marlena
Tue, 02-23-2010 - 2:14pm

Sigh.

Gail