Questions for next baby/delivery

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Questions for next baby/delivery
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Tue, 03-23-2010 - 11:20pm

Hi ladies,


I was hoping some of you could share some insight with me on a few things.

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Fri, 03-26-2010 - 4:51pm

Jackie,


Even if you need another c-section, unless it's an emergency and you're put under general anesthesia, I don't see why they won't leave the baby in the room with you. If you just have a spinal for the csection as opposed to being knocked out then the medication level is not that much greater than say someone recovering from a strong epidural. Even with the pain meds, you should be fine with the baby in the room with you, after all, you'll probably still have the pain meds at home when you'll have to take care of the baby. Of course, those things you'll only be sure of when it happens. Are you trying for a VBAC? You may not have to worry about this at all.


As long as you feed on demand, whether breast or bottle, the new baby will know that you're meeting their needs and are there for them. Since you know you shouldn't stop the meds you have no reason to feel guilty. You're doing the right thing for you and your baby. You can certaintly tell the nurses that you are to do all of the feedings and as long as you're not under general anesthesia I'm sure they will honor your wishes.


Do you have family near by that could watch Madeline for the first night? One night of DH's help in the hospital if you have a c-section would probably be a big help and really allow you to keep the new baby in your room.

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Fri, 03-26-2010 - 5:33pm

Thanks Darcy.

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Fri, 03-26-2010 - 6:10pm

I have had 3 c/s.

Sarah, mom to Alexis, Samantha and Kayleigh


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Sun, 03-28-2010 - 8:17pm

DS#1 roomed in with me, alone, after my emergency c-section. I would check with the hospital and maybe your anesthesiologist can use different drugs this time.

Dr. Sears has some info on bottle-nursing. You and your baby will bond, don't worry.

As for the ERCS vs VBAC question. I don't know when you're due, but try to research as much as possible until then. Both the c-section and VBAC support boards are great. And remember, just because you plan for a VBAC doesn't mean that you can't have a section if you need one or change your mind, if that helps take the pressure off.


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Sun, 03-28-2010 - 8:33pm

There's no one that can watch your DD so your DH can stay with you? Both my kids were born by c/s and they were both with me at all times during our stay. I never sent them to the nursery. However I had my DH there helping out a little bit. If he wasn't there I suppose I would have just called the nurse to help getting a fresh diaper or putting DD in the bassinet that first night.

I assume hospitals don't want you to do a lot of things but I don't care. I co slept in both hospitals although with the second the beds were much thinner and it was almost impossible. I ended up letting DH co sleep with her on his bed (a fold out couch). And I had to put her in the bassinet at least once because of the awful thin beds not being co sleeping friendly.

If I had to FF I would insist that the nurses not do it.

Good luck with your delivery! You might look into family centered cesareans if you haven't already. My second c/s was a homebirth transfer but it still worked out a lot better because I was prepared.

Jeska







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Registered: 04-18-2003
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 3:42pm

Another great board if you want to have a VBAC or a better c-section is the Childbirth Choices board.


As for breast vs bottle feeding, in a respectful world all medication would allow a woman to breastfeed.

Gail

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Mon, 03-29-2010 - 9:29pm

Thank you all for some great information, replies and support.

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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 5:23pm

Jackie,


I'm so excited for you!


I'm also glad that you are feeling better about everything. It always seems that it's the anxiety that kills you, once whatever it is that stresses you out actually arrives it's never as bad as you worried. I know that was the case when Dominic stayed with my parents for a couple of days and my first night away from Samantha. (I'm hoping that holds true for my upcoming trip to Florida to finish my Masters!)


I co slept in the hospital as well. Well, I did with Dominic. Samantha was switched around when she was born and I can't say we did a lot of sleeping. :-)

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