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|Fri, 08-24-2012 - 4:00pm|
I have not posted in awhile, but DS is now 4 1/2 and we are expecting our second next month, this time a girl!
I am really excited but also anticipating the near constant stream of comments from people who don't agree with my parenting choices, and could really use some advice/words of support from like-minded mommies (and of course any good come-backs to negative comments are also appreciated!)
We have co-slept with DS since he was a few months old... we started him in a bassinette thing and he was up constantly! Then a few tmes I fell asleep while nursing him back to sleep, and he slept so much longer! I was actually coherent for a change! I mentioned to the pediatrician and she suggested we try co-sleeping. We did, and it worked immediately... we have not looked back and not regretted it. He is still in with us, sleeps thru the night, and has zero interest in his own room/bed, even though we bought him a new one. I am not worried... we'll find a way to make it work until he is ready.
For him, we actually got a crib but clearly it was never used. We actually got rid of it. So now that we are getting the room ready for #2, we are already getting questions about where is the crib, are we going to make this one sleep with us also, how is there room, when will we "let" DS sleep in his own room, blah blah blah. I do not understand why SO many people are so concerned!!
I have a co-sleeper that pulls up to the side of the bed, and I plan to use that for the few couple of months. We also have a bed rail that we used for DS -- I plan to put that back up when ready so I can have one kid on each side if they both want to be in there.
I am also already getting the questions about how long I plan to nurse this one. My answer is generally as long as she wants it, because that's just the way I feel... but then I get the comments about "letting" the kid eat real food (even though I still do other foods, I just nursed in addition!), and my mom has been telling me all of this info that formula now is better than it was and I really should try it. She actually asked my sister's pediatrician (who is apparently not as pro-BF as ours is) and called me from the office! I told her that is all well and good, but I liked nursing, was not pushing it on anyone else, but also did not want to spend the $$ on formula when I could nurse for free...
I am really tired of the comments and criticisms... it makes me NOT want to involve these people in my kids' lives because every single conversation comes back to how they think I am failing at parenthood! I can already feel myself pulling away a month before this one is even due to arrive because the constant criticism is just deflating!
I'm sorry to vent but could really use any advice or words of support that anyone can offer. I feel confident in my parenting choices, but that doesnt stop me from wanting to avoid the criticism of others when it is so blatant and constant. I try to let things go and roll off my back, but pregnancy does not make me any less sensitive/emotional than I already am!
Thanks in advance!