social awkwardness and AP

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Registered: 04-10-2007
social awkwardness and AP
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Wed, 12-23-2009 - 6:10pm

Hi there

We have a lovely 4 year old who was attachment parented from the get go and I am also latina so my family is more in to touching than the average family. Our guy just started preschool this year and seems to like it - its small with a good teacher/kid ratio. What I am worried about is that he seems to be outside of the group of sorts and I am not sure if this bothers him. Also he is more prone to hug and the kids don't want to hug or hold hands.

Here is my question - how do I help him navigate this? DH had a socially awkward upbringing nad I despite being an immigrant found it easy to make friends and mingle in a lot of groups so we are at a difference of opinion on how bad this is and how to address it.

thanks for your help!
Alejandra:)

thrilled mama to DS 9-16-05


and DS 4-1-09

thrilled mama to DS 9-16-05

and DS 4-1-09
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Registered: 04-18-2003
Sun, 12-27-2009 - 8:43pm

Unless someone puts the idea in his head, he's not going to care if he's sort of "outside" the group.

Gail

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Registered: 01-30-2008
Mon, 12-28-2009 - 5:15pm

I would keep an eye on it but that's one of the reasons we send our kids to preschool so that they can learn proper social behavior with their peers. (Something I'm currently stressing out about since Dominic is dying to go to pre-school and I need to figure out how we're going to do that and be comfortable with it!) Give him a chance to figure it out on his own. Everyone has to eventually.


I for one always preferred being by myself or with only one or two other people. I HATED group activities like you wouldn't believe. So whenever I would be pushed to be with all the other kids it made me really uncomfortable.


As long as he seems happy I wouldn't worry about it. Talk to his teachers and make sure that he's picking up on social cues and that kind of thing and otherwise let him do his thing.


Hang in there mama! I know for a fact it's WAY harder on us then it is on them.

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