Things I'll miss about co-sleeping

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Registered: 02-29-2012
Things I'll miss about co-sleeping
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Wed, 02-29-2012 - 1:14pm

I remember when I was pregnant with my first child and ran across a group for parents who co-slept in association with Attachment Parenting. I clicked my back button and kept going in looking for parenting information. After I miscarried and got pregnant again, I ended up with a beautiful baby girl. She was the jewel in our lives. However, after about a week of sleeping next to the bed in a bassinet, decided that she wouldn't sleep alone again. This helped lead us down the path of Attachment Parenting. Since my youngest is almost weaned at three and I have time to reflect on what I'll miss... here is my most loved list about co-sleeping.

As a caveat, I know that co-sleeping isn't for everyone and it needs to be done safely.

1. It was so easy to breastfeed in the middle of the night.

2. Diaper changes were made easier (with a pad) in the middle of the night. I used to keep a lamp by my side of the bed and rarely woke up my husband.

3. Our crib made a great clothes hamper/cloth diaper holder.

4. Her room made a great half office.

5. When the baby was ill/heavily asthmatic, I didn't have to worry about them as much. Thankfully, I am a pretty light sleeper and wake when my son is having an attack in the middle of the night. He is old enough to get us if he needs help though.

6. I love baby cuddles.

7. When we go on trips, I don't have to bring anything with me for the youngest to sleep on.

8. The older two can play in their rooms without waking the youngest up during naptime.

9. The older kids fondly remember sleeping next to me and being rocked back to sleep in the middle of the night.

10. I have some extra wonderful memories of taking care of their night time needs with great love and still feel that it worked the best for us.

11. When my older kids were little and my husband was out of town, we had a few times that sleet knocked out the electricity or there was something else that scared them. They could come in and sleep in my room for the night without having any issue, since they knew the drill.

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Registered: 09-30-2011
Thu, 03-01-2012 - 9:18am

Welcome! I liked your story of how you started down the AP path. :smileyhappy:

I can totally relate to #9...my youngest is 8 years old and we still have a rocking chair in his room b/c he still lets me rock him sometimes. Since I know he's my last, I'm treasuring every last moment I can get!

Lisa

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Registered: 04-18-2003
Thu, 03-01-2012 - 9:34am

With morning and evening cuddle times, hugs during the day, that sort of thing, part of me feels like co-sleeping hasn't ended for us.

Gail

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Registered: 02-16-2012
Thu, 03-01-2012 - 11:56am

Oh man, I can totally relate to this post! I put off ending co-sleeping for as long as possible- even bought a bigger bed to buy some time!

Now, when I feel myself missing it, I'll climb into one of my kid's beds and just cuddle with them there for awhile.

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Fri, 03-02-2012 - 8:49am

We didn't even co-sleep but reading your list makes me wish we had!

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Registered: 09-08-2007
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 10:01am
Maybe I'll get more of these with our next child, but we stopped co-sleeping at about 3 months when I discovered that he slept better in his own room. I have slept with him occasionally now that he's older and in a twin, but no one sleeps well when we do :(

I've got some plans to hopefully make co-sleeping go better this time, and maybe even "let" my DH share the bed with us, like another poster he was scared to roll over on our son. An unfortunately valid concern for him as he is a very heavy sleeper. But I found these when I transferred our DS to a twin bed: http://www.magicbumpers.com/#Magic%20Bumpers and hope they will work for us :)
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Registered: 04-18-2003
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 10:33am

There are three levels of co-sleeping--bed sharing, bed beside, and room sharing.

Gail

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Fri, 03-02-2012 - 12:03pm
Yeah, unfortunately even room sharing caused and causes everyone to wake up multiple times a night :( And having moved in with my parents shortly before my father passed, we have a much smaller bedroom, no room for a toddler bed or even a bassinet in it.
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Fri, 03-09-2012 - 10:23am

I think many moms find themselves "accidentally AP-ing." I know I did. When I was pg with my first I never thought I'd co-sleep. Then he was born and the rest was history.

I don't get quite teary eyed yet since my daughter still comes in to bed occasionally and we have another one on the way so those baby smiles will be here again. The good thing is my 6 year old is still a great snuggler and we get snuggle time before bed every night. :-)

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Fri, 03-09-2012 - 11:15am
Yeah that was me, an accidental APer, lol. It just fit with how I felt I should be a mom. I did some things that aren't "hard-core" APing, i.e. allowing my DS to fuss it out starting at 3 months, but I never let him scream cry it out. I didn't wear him much passed 5-6 months because he got mobile and didn't want to be held, but I have still done some. At Thanksgiving we went down to my DH's step-grandparents for a few days. I took my SSC cause I know my DS hates crowds of ppl and he spent most of the time in my arms. I don't wear him much now cause I'm 18 wks and he's 36lbs, makes it a difficult combo :)
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Fri, 03-09-2012 - 11:34am
keeyamah: Yeah, unfortunately even room sharing caused and causes everyone to wake up multiple times a night :smileysad:And having moved in with my parents shortly before my father passed, we have a much smaller bedroom, no room for a toddler bed or even a bassinet in it.

Gail

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