UGH!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2007
UGH!!!
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Wed, 12-30-2009 - 9:59am

OK, so it has been a while since I have been here...life gets a little busy sometimes!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2008
In reply to: skmlane
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 3:08pm

me thinks she feels guilty and has to put you down to feel better...

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Registered: 08-27-2006
In reply to: skmlane
Thu, 12-31-2009 - 9:10am

Don't worry - the better parent will become evident in the long run!

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Registered: 01-31-2007
In reply to: skmlane
Thu, 12-31-2009 - 9:41am

Thanks!

Community Leader
Registered: 04-18-2003
In reply to: skmlane
Sat, 01-02-2010 - 6:06pm

Jeeze, she'd have a field day with me.

Gail

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Registered: 01-31-2007
In reply to: skmlane
Sat, 01-02-2010 - 11:34pm

Chapter 2...

So New Year's Eve we were all at a friend's house. SIL 5 wk old was crying and didn't want to go to sleep. BIL suggested that he thought the baby was still hungry. Instead of trying to feed him, SIL puts him in our friend's bedroom by himself screaming and crying in a strange place with no one in there but him. I wanted to go in there and pick him up so bad!!! Anyway, after him crying uncontrollably for like 5 minutes, she finally went back in there and brought him out to see what was wrong with him. She gave him some more bottle while our friend held him and lo and behold...a half ounce later and a little snuggle time and he was out like a light. Why do people have babies if they don't want to take care of them??? My heart goes out to him. Poor little guy...




iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2008
In reply to: skmlane
Wed, 01-06-2010 - 4:48pm

OMG!


#1: What a witch to post that on facebook and seriously? Lazy parenting to meet your child's needs? Oh yes, ignoring them completely is wonderful.


#2: That poor baby. At that age my child was never out of my arms in a strange place and especially not when they were crying. The kids needs a little comfort. That just breaks my heart.


I hope you posted an alternative on facebook. Some mothers (like information from your SIL) think that CIO is the only way to do it and they actually fight their instincts because they think it's what's right. I really believe we should always offer a counter argument (in a respectful way) so that they know there is an option.


IMO, CIO especially that young is abuse. Plain and simple. It is neglect and quite honestly, if that is your way of parenting then perhaps you shouldn't have children.


Although you probably won't be able to help your SIL (I'm not sure I could talk to her :-) hopefully you can shed some light for your friend.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2007
In reply to: skmlane
Wed, 01-06-2010 - 6:04pm

Thanks Darcy!

Community Leader
Registered: 04-18-2003
In reply to: skmlane
Thu, 01-07-2010 - 6:32pm

Do NOT delay in doing this.

Gail

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2008
In reply to: skmlane
Fri, 01-08-2010 - 5:31pm

I'm glad she got some good advice even if she didn't take it and that people stuck up for you. That's terrible about your nephew and I hope it was an eye opening for her.


It is worth asking her DH if she has been depressed. It can serve two fold, one that maybe she really is depressed and needs some PP help or two, maybe they should be paying more attention to their infant if other people are questioning if something is wrong. It's worth a shot.

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Registered: 01-31-2007
In reply to: skmlane
Wed, 01-13-2010 - 11:57am

Thanks everyone.

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