Hello

Thank you so much patterson for the warm welcome x

the areas I think I need to work on are , my eldest has already managed his anger and rarely shows it and when he does he nearly always walks away and calms him self down, it's mainly they are doing small things that I feel are out of character for a child and believe it's down to the past, they are very self centered and unaware of things around them, my eldest has learnt to lie to save himself and because children are sponges and he's sponged from a compulsive liar and now thinks it's normal to lie, they show a deviousness that I need to change in them, again due to their past, I find we are having the same arguments over petty things every single day like "don't take your phone to school it cost too much money" my son will then try to find ways to get it out of the house, "put your coats on the hangers and the bags on the stairs, shoes on the rack when you come in from school" they consistently throw them on the floor and then kick off when I remind them, "homework" I don't have any, then hide the fact and then getting detentions" and not really caring, my eldest argues over everything and I mean everything, when he does not get his own way he keeps nagging and nagging until her does just like my ex did, my children are wonderful boys but f they carry on the way they are they won't do as well as they could in school, my eldest seems to have lost his pride in his work?