Help really bad behavior at school...

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Registered: 10-07-2003
Help really bad behavior at school...
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Fri, 10-02-2009 - 2:18pm

I need help. My oldest ds is extremely gifted beyond his years smart, but has with all that has the intensity & behavior problems beyond what most people can handle. His teacher had told me that she usually gets the difficult kids b/c she's really good with them, but she's at a loss with him. I made some suggestions to her, & things seemed to be improving. She started giving him the option of starting the lesson with the class, moving ahead while they are working & then he gets to choose to do something he would rather do b/c he finishes so fast & that was when the behavior problems start.

I've been trying the NHA at home. Alone as my dh won't read the book. It's exhausting. I've noticed he is very high needs with the attention & the more I give, the more he needs & I have 2 other kids 3 & 7 months & I'm home with all of them by myself most of the time. With all that, I felt like we were making some progress. He had had a really good week & earned a "self managers" badge (something they get for not getting more than 2 marks) & was so proud.

But today, was awful. This morning was pretty hectic & I know I wasn't as patient has I could have been. I don't know what got him sent to the principal's office but they just called & are sending him home with a police escort b/c the principal thinks he needs to see this is bigger than mom & principal. I was really stunned, so I didn't say anything. The principal didn't even know why he was sent to the office b/c he wouldn't speak to him & he said that DS had spit in his face & while I was on the phone, DS hung up the phone. He told the principal he wants to be suspended.

SO WHAT DO I DO NOW? Obviously, this behavior deserves some sort of community service to be performed. In the past, when he got sent home, he was sent to his room (with nothing in it) for the time that he was suppose to be in school & then got no privileges afterward. Sometimes he took but a lot of times that just led to a lot of energy by me trying to keep him in his room. What do I do? I'm kind of wondering if our parent/teacher conference last night didn't kind of set him back. It wasn't anything bad (it was parent/teacher conferences for the whole school, but we did spend some time the things we were both doing to help the situation. I HATE having him present for those conversations, but I had no where to take him & his siblings.

Any advice on how I should proceed today & this weekend since today is Friday?

Pumpkin

&nbs

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 7:26am

Hi and welcome to the board.

 


 



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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 10-13-2009 - 8:10am
How are things going?

 


 



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Registered: 09-21-2005
Mon, 10-26-2009 - 1:06pm
I know I am jumping in a bit late on this one...but what happened at school for him to be sent home that way..never heard of such a thing.

Valentine Bingo               

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 01-07-2010 - 7:53am

Some considerable time has passed since your last visit. I hope this is an indication that things are going better and the problems have been resolved.

We'd love to hear an update and hope you have quite a few things you can celebrate so far in the New Year!

 


 



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Registered: 09-21-2005
Fri, 01-15-2010 - 12:24pm
Just wanted to check in ..how are things?>

Valentine Bingo               

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 8:39am
We'd love to hear an update from you!

 


 



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Registered: 09-21-2005
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 8:45am
Me too !

Valentine Bingo