Hi and welcome to the board.
We have been using it about 2-3 weeks. DH is the man caregiver - I work full time.
When he is acting well, he loves to be around people and socialize. He loves animals (although we recently lost our cat and then our dog and now have no pets) and he loves being with family. This is why when he misbehaves, we take away what he loves most - playing and being with other people.
Unfortunately, I had a hard time coming up with those three things. These days, he is willful, defiant, selfish and demanding. He whines about everything. All he wsnts to do is play. He lies to get what he wants. The day before yesterday he lied about being sick so he didn't have to do school work or chores. DH made him stay in his room and eat plain toast and soup. He complained that that soup was too hot and said that he didn't like it. DH put it in the freezer for him then and then he complained that it tasted bad. We told him that this is not a restaurant and you eat what is in front of you without complaining - dinner was a repeat of the same issue. We are getting frustrated about the lack of results.
I'm sure that your son is having a hard time dealing with the loss of his pets and his grief is real!
What can we celebrate today?
What happened to my long post from earlier?
If you really want the Approach to work, you need to go back to the first step and begin again, together...Now, you're opening a brand new package of tools -- they seem strange and odd and we're asking you toss most everything you've done in the past out and trust that these new tools will work -- and given time, they will IF you are willing to use them in the way they were meant to be used.
What can we celebrate with you today?
I hope you're still visiting the board.
We are still trying to use the method, but DH is not willing to go back to the positive statements without consequences.