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Wed, 07-14-2010 - 5:35pm

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: westiesma2010
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 9:21am

Hi and welcome to the board.

 


 



iVillage Member
Registered: 07-14-2010
In reply to: westiesma2010
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 10:15am

We have been using it about 2-3 weeks. DH is the man caregiver - I work full time.

When he is acting well, he loves to be around people and socialize. He loves animals (although we recently lost our cat and then our dog and now have no pets) and he loves being with family. This is why when he misbehaves, we take away what he loves most - playing and being with other people.

Unfortunately, I had a hard time coming up with those three things. These days, he is willful, defiant, selfish and demanding. He whines about everything. All he wsnts to do is play. He lies to get what he wants. The day before yesterday he lied about being sick so he didn't have to do school work or chores. DH made him stay in his room and eat plain toast and soup. He complained that that soup was too hot and said that he didn't like it. DH put it in the freezer for him then and then he complained that it tasted bad. We told him that this is not a restaurant and you eat what is in front of you without complaining - dinner was a repeat of the same issue. We are getting frustrated about the lack of results.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: westiesma2010
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 11:05am

I'm sure that your son is having a hard time dealing with the loss of his pets and his grief is real!

 


 



iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: westiesma2010
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 6:29pm

What can we celebrate today?

 


 



iVillage Member
Registered: 07-14-2010
In reply to: westiesma2010
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 7:22pm

What happened to my long post from earlier?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: westiesma2010
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 8:18pm

If you really want the Approach to work, you need to go back to the first step and begin again, together...Now, you're opening a brand new package of tools -- they seem strange and odd and we're asking you toss most everything you've done in the past out and trust that these new tools will work -- and given time, they will IF you are willing to use them in the way they were meant to be used.

 


 



iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: westiesma2010
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 9:02pm
Hi Rachel - Your message has been relayed to me by Jan and I will try to offer a solution. I am honored by your interest in the Nurtured Heart Approach and I can tell you are trying hard to help your son. Your message show the greatness of how much you care and how devoted you are to moving his situation forward.

 


 



iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: westiesma2010
Wed, 07-21-2010 - 8:41am

What can we celebrate with you today?

 


 



iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: westiesma2010
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 9:03am

I hope you're still visiting the board.

 


 



iVillage Member
Registered: 07-14-2010
In reply to: westiesma2010
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 6:09pm

We are still trying to use the method, but DH is not willing to go back to the positive statements without consequences.

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