Urinating in inappropriate places.

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Urinating in inappropriate places.
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Sun, 12-11-2011 - 9:45am

Hello,

I'm not sure if this is anything anyone can address?

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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 8:05am

Beth!

 

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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 8:50am

Hello Jan!

Ah... thank you very much, that IS helpful. :)

Yes, I know exactly what you mean about him being told not to come out of the room until x,y, z... in fact, with the hamper incident, that's exactly what he said happened... honestly I don't remember why, but we must have had him stay in his room until he did something (maybe get dressed?) lol

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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 10:12am
When you frame your statements, remember it should be "I need you to....", never "Do you need to.... ?" This takes all the choice out of what you need the child to accomplish in that moment. While they can still choose to do it or not -- you've set the boundary very clearly.

I'm picturing your son in his room -- and smiling -- because I can see one of my kids trying to figure a way out of a similar situation and how he/she could "creatively" resolve the problem.... I think I remember an old metal lunch box that once served as repository for some toys served the trick - ;)

Keep smiling -- Greatness grows in small baby steps, but when you look back, they look like leaps and bounds! :)

 

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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 10:47am

OK Jan, I will definitely keep that in mind... I have been using that phrase a lot more. :)

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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 11:39am
Just like Dora says, just keep swimming.... keep practicing and don't give up. It is a new habit to create in your efforts to rewire. The deal is you're actually rewiring YOU as much as you're rewiring your intense child. The Transformation continues! Keep working it! It's happening! Greatness grows!

 

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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 1:10pm
Yes Jan! That is what has been a blessing in disguise in all the "difficult" behavior... I have been forced to look at my own self, and transform.... we are all each other's mirrors... are we not? :)
I always joke... "I always thought I was such an easy going, laid back person.... then I had my son" LOL Well, I just have to say, I wasn't REALLY... and my children have proved that! But I don't mind... these past two years have really been transformative... as Gandhi said "Be the change you want to see in the world" :)
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