HELP 7yo drawing pictures of naked ladie

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Registered: 07-20-2003
HELP 7yo drawing pictures of naked ladie
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Sun, 07-20-2003 - 9:38pm
Help! My 7yo apparently saw a magazine in a coworkers office about a year and a half ago. My DH caught him and told him not to look at it anymore, but decided not to tell me about it. He was going with me to work about 3 days a week (I work part-time in a family business) and was sneaking into this office and looking at this magazine. I was wondering why my DS was always wanting to look in the panties section of the store and I found a box from a new bra hidden in his desk. My DS came and told me that he had been looking at this magazine even though his dad told him not to. (I don't know why my DH didn't tell me about it so that I could have made sure that he never looked at it again). Anyway, this co-worker was of a questionable character and I don't know exactly what kind of pornography this book was. Now, my DS is 7 and is talking about naked women and asking if I would get him a book with naked women so he could look etc... I tried letting him look at a book of art with the usuall naked paintings etc and told him that this was art and that a woman's body was beautiful but that the pictures in the magazine were not appropriate, and that it was sad that these women would let someone take a picture of them naked. Now he's decided he wants to be an artist, and he showed me drawings that he has done of naked women, some with their hands touching themselves, but they all have sad faces. I am quite shy about sex, but my son is very open and honest about his feelings. And, so far I have not handled things very well, and I haven't known quite what to say to him. He asked me "if I can't look at pictures of naked women, then can I imagine them in my mind?" He is really struggling with this (as am I) because he wants to be a good boy and completely honest but I'm afraid that I am going to make him just stop talking to me because I don't handle it very well.

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Registered: 09-28-2003
Wed, 10-08-2003 - 6:09am


he sounds like a sensitive and intelligent boy. i drew naked ladies at his age, and used to hide them from my mother. i was severely embarrassed when she found them and disapproved. i felt rejected, and i've never really forgiven her.

the libido that makes him draw can be channeled into whatever you want, but please dont turn it against him.




Edited 10/8/2003 6:17:49 AM ET by j0n0