Help...am I overreacting to sons daddys actions?

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Registered: 04-23-2008
Help...am I overreacting to sons daddys actions?
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Sun, 04-22-2012 - 2:00am
Ok so my son is only 3. He is a pretty well behaved child. Has normal tantrums, been doing well with potty training, loves to do things on his own, learns fast, has his moments where he doesn't listen, loves is mommy. Well we spend a lot of time together, I get him dressed in the morning and take him to school (daycare), I pick him up, I make his dinner, bathe him, and put him to bed. When his dad gets home he usually sits down and wants to watch a show or a movie. sometimes it is a kids movie and sometimes not, I usually don't like him to watch movies like fast five, war movies, and such like they do sometimes. Well his dad is always telling him to sit down and watch the movie, sit down and be quite because he can't hear the movie. Well he is 3! I don't mind him playing in the livingroom. I find a kid movie to play in the background while he is playing sometimes or play kid songs...when he goes to bed I watch what I want to watch sometimes...I am in school too so I usually study. But it seems like his dad is always yelling at him. When he was putting him to bed tonight for once he was fussing at him because he was crying for me. He t told him to quit crying like a baby and suck it up. Then as he was leaving his room because of the crying as he was shutting the door I heard. Because this is bullcrap all this whining. he had been like this for just a little while now but it bothers me.I was getting ready for work tonight so I couldn't put him to bed because they got home so late from a birthday party. But usually I do to prevent the crying and fussing. But sometimes I need the help...am I wrong for wanting to say something...I want to talk to him on the morning when he is rested and not tired. But I an really bothered...please help!

 

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Registered: 06-27-2006
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 9:06am
Oh my! I have been there! And yes, you need to talk to him about it. If you don't, the behavior (husband's) will continue and you will become bitter towards dh (BTDT).
Have you tried putting one of his movies on in another room while dh is watching his movie? That might keep him occupied for a while. I agree that those types of movies are not appropriate for a 3 year old.
I think morning would be a great time to talk, just make sure he isn't rushed to get to work. :)
Thanks for stopping by. Hope you find your happy medium. :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 3:17pm

Does your DH actually play or have any interaction w/ his son?

Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001

I was thinking the same thing and it's so sad, made me a little angry to honestly.

Reminds me of my ex-husband.

It was ALL about him...:(...

It seems like it's one-sided.

Nightangel