"The Talk"

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Registered: 03-14-2012
"The Talk"
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Tue, 03-20-2012 - 12:01pm

Hello all.

I'm the mother of a seven (eight in May) year old boy, who has started asking how babies are made. I've managed to put him off with the "when a man and a woman love each other very much, they make a baby...now go to sleep please", but it's not the first time he's asked, and I'm sure it won't be the last.

Unfortunately, I'm now raising him by myself (his father and I are in the middle of a divorce, and he seems to enjoy not being forced to spend time with his son, and is certainly not seeing him voluntarily), so I'm very likely going to have to do The Talk by myself, whenever it has to happen, which is a whole other problem.

Anyway, what I'm wondering is, at what age have other parents taken that step with their children. I've asked my male friends when they had that discussion with their parents, and I've gotten everything from 5 or 6 (he was a very precocious child) to 12 years old.

Advice? Ideas? Stall tactics? I can't believe that my son is really ready for that conversation, but I could be in denial. Still, he asked me again last night while he was getting ready for bed, and then curled up with his stuffed fox and went to sleep. He's still a baby in my eyes, I guess.

Thanks in advance!

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Wed, 03-21-2012 - 12:15am
It should be an ongoing discussion and not one talk. The talks should be honest, and not over his head. They should reflect the values you want to instill.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 03-22-2012 - 11:20am

Why don't you check at your library or book store to see if there is a very simple book on babies that he would understand?

Community Leader
Registered: 06-27-2006
Mon, 03-26-2012 - 11:03pm
Hi and welcome.. I don't believe in stall tactics since he is asking questions, answer them honestly with him. When he is asking, talk to him frankly but keep it on his level.

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Registered: 09-30-2011
Wed, 03-28-2012 - 2:14pm
my2kidsmom199498 wrote:
It should be an ongoing discussion and not one talk. The talks should be honest, and not over his head. They should reflect the values you want to instill.

Yep, that's how we've been handling it as well. Answering questions at they arise over time instead of one big "talk". My 8 year old asked me a similar question and I went with the shortest but truthful answer- he got a bit grossed out over the words "sperm" and "egg" and hasn't asked anything else since, LOL!

Lisa