Am I being overly paranoid?

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Registered: 07-16-2003
Am I being overly paranoid?
Thu, 07-17-2003 - 10:49pm
Behind our house are a couple of houses with a variety of kids. One day I overheard a couple of the parents get into a fight because one of the boys touched one of the girls in "her crotch". I don't know how it resolved, and I don't know what really happened (I have heard a bunch of the girls tackling one of the boys and then forcibly applying nail polish to his nails), but today when one of the little boys was hollaring at Catherine "hello little girl" I felt a bit aprehensive. Do I let her communicate with these boys that are probably about three years older than her (oh dear god they could be potential suitors!!), or do I escort her back into her bubble and keep her away from the outside world for that much longer??


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-18-2003 - 8:56am
I think you have to hit the middle ground Corinna. :-) While the bubble sounds nice, its not very realistic, nor is just shunting her over to the neighbors while you bake cookies. Perhaps you should invite these children to your yard first. Observe them in action. Many things can get blown out of proportion and if the girls were harassing the boys they may have done something in retaliation that was unacceptable, that doesn't mean they are perverts in the making. :-) Get to know them first, have a mid-summer party (turn on the sprinkler, have some cupcakes, nothing formal) and see how they interact. Then you'll know for sure whether you want Catherine associating with them. Life does get complicated as our kids get older. Didn't they tell you that in your manual? ;-)



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Registered: 04-17-2003
Fri, 07-18-2003 - 8:59am
Well,I don't think it is overly paranoid. If I had heard of a group of kids in my neighborhood forcably doing anything to another child be it boy or girl that is what I would be worried about. I would have liked to known the details of the crotch incident if I were you because it could have been an accident but if it had been deliberate or something done in meanness then that would also be something to worry about I think. I have never been really comfortable with my younger children playing with other children several years older without supervision so I always managed to be able to see them and hear what they are talking about at all times.

They may be really nice children you are dealing with, but I would still make sure that my presence was known at all times while they were playing with my kid.

Just my thoughts.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-21-2003 - 1:25pm
yes. But with that said, JUST because of the age difference I would certainly want her playing with them with ADULT supervision. I know Rachel has a couple 'friends' that are a bit older than her, but they are always very well supervised when they are together (usually at my house). I think you should let her get to know her neighbors (and there for the children she will be going to school with) just watch her as I know you will!