Awful mornings with 11 yr old

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Awful mornings with 11 yr old
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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 10:26am

Hi Ladies,

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Registered: 08-25-2000
Mon, 11-29-2010 - 1:14pm

My first question is if she is getting enough sleep???

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Registered: 12-12-2007
Mon, 11-29-2010 - 1:20pm

Hi Jojo,

I think it might be time to change things up.

KRISTIE
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Registered: 12-12-2007
Mon, 11-29-2010 - 1:28pm

Oh, and I forgot to tell you.

KRISTIE
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Registered: 03-16-2004
Mon, 11-29-2010 - 8:06pm

Hi Weberdns0,

Yes, my daughter was a bit tired today. But, she is not the most cooperative girl when she gets enough sleep, either.

She has a ton of energy (and is what you would call a "spirited child)

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Mon, 11-29-2010 - 8:24pm

Hi krist143,

Thanks for the reply.

My DD usually gets herself dressed by herself and makes her breakfast. But, today we were running late (as she did not get up in time) and so I was helping make her breakfast, etc. (I just replied to another post, and there are lots of details in there about her bed time and morning routine.)

She is not on her phone at night and does not have a TV in her room. She basically can't "settle" down once in bed and will stay awake by going to the bathroom 2x, changing her PJ's (claiming the ones she is wearing are uncomforable), she will get a different blanket, get a different pillow, adjust her closet door (she sleeps w/ the closet light on), etc, etc. So, she can't fall asleep right away as she does not sit still! You have to lay down to sleep, and she does not do this. She

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 11-29-2010 - 11:36pm

I have to agree with the other posters that she may not be getting enough sleep.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 08-25-2000
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 10:38am

do you have a routine before bed??

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 2:06am

Hi mytwokidsmom,

We have been putting my DD to sleep earlier the last few nights, and her beahvior has been somewhat better during the day.(Although today, she was mad that we had to run to the grocery store after school-it is on the way home from her school and I needed only 2 things. Because she did not want to go to the store, she said she hated me! I took her phone away for this. I told her she could be mad, but she is not allowed to

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 2:18am

Hi weberdns,

She does have a bed time routine, She usually lays on the couch and watches TV for about 15 minutes. Sometimes she reads before bed. She no longer askes us to change clothes, pillows, etc as this was a "ploy" to get engaging us to talk to her. She is allowed to move around and change clothes, get a new blanket, etc, as long as she does not talk to us or ask us about this. I wish she could settle down before bed, but she has so much energy, it's like she can't just settle down and sleep. (On the upside, once she is asleep, she does not ever wake up again during the night. Since she was a baby, she is good about staying asleep all night once she goes to bed. She is so full of energy all day, she is probably exhausted and this is why she is a good sleeper.) Maybe we can tell her that for every time she gets out of bed, she will go to sleep 15 minutes earlier the next night. We will know if she gets up -we have an old house with creaky wooden floors, so we can hear her when she gets up. Also, she walks really loudly, and we can hear this. (We jokingly call her thunder feet, becasue it sounds like thunder when she runs down our wooden stairs!) If we see her getting up, we can take your suggestion, and put her back to sleep and not talk to her so she won't get attention.

Thanks for the reply-

-JoJo

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Registered: 08-25-2000
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 8:27am

Sounds like a good plan to me!!