Best advice for raising teenagers

Community Leader
Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 10:54pm
Enjoy the ride! I am mom to an almost 14 yo ds and a 17 1/2 yo dd. Give them enough rope at times to let them hang themselves at times, listen intently and try not to roll your eyes until your back is turned. Give a nudge now and then, perhaps a whack upside the head lightly, come down like a hammer only when needed and keep them busy!!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2000
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 9:58am

What good advice!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2007
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 12:34pm
Both of you are right! My DH is having a hard time letting go of OSD. She'll be 20 this summer and I keep telling him that you can't just let go all at once. She won't know what to do. He working really hard to let a little go at a time! :0) poor daddy!! I'm a newer Mom, but I came into SD19's life when she was 15 and one of the things that helped us was that we found something in common. It doesn't have to be anything big. It will allow the teen to be on the same level as you on one thing and this helps them feel grown up and that is some of the first steps to them maturing. (at least in my book).

and I 100% agree with keep them busy! It means we get to play taxi diriving until the can drive, but it's super important to let them find what they love and pursue it. Keeps them out of the extra trouble some teens find along the way. Double bonus!!
KRISTIE
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Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2000
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 5:38pm

It's hard to let go....even harder when you know that they don't have the maturity to be on their own yet.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2002
Thu, 02-16-2012 - 1:05pm

I raised my nephew. It's the terrible two's all over again, just in bigger bodies. They say no to everything. They don't want their mommy, then they cling to their mommy.



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Registered: 08-25-2000
Fri, 02-17-2012 - 10:34am

Yep we have been putting time limits on dd's showers as she could stay there for an hour or more if we would let her!