Boys playing intimidates 4 yo DD.

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Registered: 05-06-2003
Boys playing intimidates 4 yo DD.
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Tue, 09-30-2003 - 3:13am
My DD has just started her 2nd year of preschool. She loves everything about the school except for how some of the boys play. Some run after her and her friends roaring like monsters. She pointed out one of the boys to me. She has told me that she has asked them to stop, told the teacher, but they are still doing it. These boys haven't physically harmed her in any way. These are some suggestions I gave her: tell the teacher, get their names and teachers names (so I can mention it to their parents or teachers), or just don't follow the other girls that are running from the "monsters." I encourage her to play with the other girls in the class. She's always been a girlish girl. Boys just play different. I have 2 girls. They are use to cooperation. These boys really upset her that she tells me that she hates them and lately she said she didn't want to go to school. I'm not sure if I should just let it go because I can't protect her from everything that bothers her. I don't want her teachers to think she's a little "prima donna." I did mention it once to the one of her TA a couple of weeks ago.

Thanks,

Kate

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-30-2003 - 9:32am
I would mention it again. Its got nothing to do with being a prima donna. My DD would be right in her glory playing monsters, but that doesn't mean its okay for the other kids to chase kids who don't want to play. If it is affecting her to the point that she doesn't want to go to school then the teachers should know about it. Tell them the effect its having and that you don't want her to get a negative attitude about school. She still has a lot of years left to go. The teachers should be talking to the kids and telling them its okay to play monsters, but if someone doesn't want to play, then they have to back off. They are old enough to understand that. Perhaps not in those words. LOL Don't be afraid to stand up for your DD. You are her best and strongest advocate, no one else will do it. She's just a little girl and can not deal with situations in an adult way. Good luck and I hope she gets her love of school back.

Tam

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Tue, 09-30-2003 - 11:47am
Hi Kate and welcome to the board. I'm Karla, mom to Sarah and Abby (and two sons also). I completely agree with what Tam suggested. I don't have anything else to add, I just wanted to welcome you and say HI. We hope to hear from you often.
Karla

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