Do you talk with your girls about all

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Registered: 04-07-2008
Do you talk with your girls about all
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Mon, 08-25-2003 - 12:16pm
current events especially about the kidnappings and such? Did you discuss the Elizabeth Smart story? How did you present it? Does your daughter have a "plan" about what to do in the event someone tries to take her? Do you take extra precaution with your daughter more than with your son? Do you even worry about such things at all?


We just had an Amber alert issued and I was just wondering if anyone talked about such things with their young daughters. We have discussed kidnapping and such with my oldest dd (10) but it is way over my youngest's understanding. It is such a tragedy to hear about these things.


Karla

Karla
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Registered: 04-05-2003
Mon, 08-25-2003 - 3:53pm
It is scary. Our daughters are all young enough that they are watched always. But even so, we've made sure they understand not to be lured away by a stranger. It's especially scary knowing how outgoing and friendly (and trusting) they can be.

Not to make light--but a humorous story.

My wife spent much of a day with my oldest daughter drilling her in what to do in different situations to avoid abduction. She quizzed her on what to do if a stranger says he's lost his dog and needs help finding it (run back to mom/dad). What do you do if grabbed? (scream), etc.

So I get home from work that day, and my daughter runs to me and say-- "Daddy! Daddy! Guess what? Mommy has been teaching me all the things I need to do to make sure I don't get adopted!"

:-) (i.e. instead of abducted)...

-Gary

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Registered: 04-07-2008
Mon, 08-25-2003 - 6:26pm
LOL Gary,

when quizzing my youngest about strangers I asked her one day "What would you do if someone came up to you and said Come here little girl and I will give you some ice cream?" and her answer (after many practice run throughs of what to do)...



"I would say thank you."


;0

Karla

Karla
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Tue, 08-26-2003 - 8:42am
I guess that's why we have to keep working on it. Kids just don't have a natural instinct that warns them against these dangers. Although its sometimes hard to draw the line. I want to protect them, but I also don't want them to lose their faith in human nature or to be scared of everyone either.

-Gary

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Mon, 09-01-2003 - 12:39pm
Yes! I discuss those kinds of issues with my children. We have play-acted out scenarios and what to do. We constantly go over the rules about avoiding cars and strangers before I let them go anywhere. We discuss telling adults "NO!" if they are trying to do something that is uncomfortable or wrong. I have gone into some details on what could happen to my oldest two children.

It makes me sick to have to discuss such things with my children. I HATE perverts! I think we should KILL them all! Yes, my words are harsh but so are their actions, which end up ruining lives forever.

I have told my children that they would never be to blame should anything bad happen to them. I have told them that no adult under any circumstance should be asking for their help, that adults are capable of helping themselves, that some adults trick kids and it is not the kid's fault.

I have also told them that no matter what, if the worst should happen they should continue praying and that one way or another Jesus will get them out of the situation by either sending them home to me or taking them home to him.

Really, it seems to me the problem is getting worse. It happens everywhere. The Elizabeth Smart situation fascinated my 10-year-old dd because her name is Elizabeth. I only explained certain aspects of that whole situation, saying she was kidnapped and held hostage and those people were cruel and hideous to her, and she was afraid of them and what they would do so she did what they told her to.

Konnie