Its ok for Girls to Hit Boys!!
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|Tue, 06-03-2003 - 7:51am|
My daughter is 5 years old and her brother is 7 and they were really
fighting away at each other over a toy . I got them to stop and proceeded to
deliver what I thought was a timely lecture to my son. I said, "You need to
get over the idea of hitting girls. Your sister is smaller than you, but
even if she was not, just don't do it. It is fundamentally wrong. You have
to learn other ways of negotiating your relationship with girls/women when
you are angry."
I thought that was just the right thing to do. My little girl's immediate
response was to kick my son hard right in the balls and laugh because she
expected to be immune from retaliation.
I was completely shocked by daughters actions and she was punished harshly
for it but I realise that I may have been installing the wrong messages in
my daughters mind. By telling her brother that it was not ok to hit girls
she believed it was ok for girls to hit boys. From now on in my house it is
"its' not ok to hit anyone."